Correct, here's the rub.
The bullet weight is less than the bolt carrier group (BCG), so guess what moves first?
The bullet does
The retardation of the BCG is directly related to weight and recoil spring strength
If the BCG and recoil spring strength equals the bullet weight then yes, both would move equally based on the force applied. But that's not true the BCG and spring strength is higher than the bullet weight.
This is why in all firearms bullet weight plays a key part in the cycle speed of a firearm.
John