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so my 7th grade 12 year old lost the Championship match of the Regional Middle School Volleyball Tournament today to an 8th grader and a 9th grader. Yeah, a high schooler played in a middle school v-ball tourney. Typical club v-ball BS. Is it worth my time and values to sign up for a couple social media venues and respond when people post the awesomeness of the win? In short, do I mess with them and get booted fro. Those people and get booted from those platforms within 24 hours? :p
 
If you have the time to kill and just want to have a little fun, then why not.
 
Depends on what lesson you want your daughter to learn. Sounds like she is doing well so maybe take the hard lesson, that some will cheat to win and there often isn’t anything you can do about it, rather than the easy lesson, hey let’s be a sore loser because we think they cheated.

I get that it’s emotional, treat it like a new tattoo, think on it for a while before acting.
 
HMP said:
I wouldnt blast the people that won, but the organization that allowed them. Ultimately I think they are to blame.
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Yep, that was my thought. I am not shocked as tournament directors are all crappy in my experience. I was actually more pissed at my wife for not telling me this before the tournament. Then I could have said something to the tournament director one on one. I wouldn't say anything to the kid. She's a good kid, and it's not her fault her parents and the TD are idiots. They are doing her any favors competing against younger kids. When she has to play against kids her own age she'll realize she has a long ways to go, and really isn't that good.

We are done with sand volleyball for a while, but I'll certainly have to make a wise ass comment to the tournament director next time we play an event there.
 
No way I would display any disrespect toward anyone unless you wish your child to join the bullying crowd, nothing to gain and a whole bunch to loose. Winners are losers that respect themselves and others.
 
If you have a legitimate grievance take it to the tourney organizers. Going to social media with a complaint will just make you look like another internet troll.
 
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Catfish said:
If you have a legitimate grievance take it to the tourney organizers. Going to social media with a complaint will just make you look like another internet troll.
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The tourney organizers are the problem. I wasn't talking about a formal complaint because first, it would go nowhere. And second it wasn't an important tourney anyway. I was just considering busting some nuts when the organization made their social media posts. But I'll save my verbal abuse for the next tourney. It's much more fun in person when you can see the other person's facial expressions. Plus my daughter commented that next time she's going to play with her normal partner instead of a local friend. Which means they'll win easily. She sounds as if she's through playing for fun and wants to kick butts. Now to just make sure she keeps having fun while kicking butts.
 
I wouldn't. Only think I would do would be post to praise my 12 year old for bringing the pain and making it as far as she did.
 
J R Green said:
Did they violate any rules? If no suck it up or buy her a participation trophy.
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Ha! She has way too many trophies already.

It was a tournament for Middle School girls. The team that won had a high school girl playing. Allowed by the people running the tourney so one of their players could win. Just adults screwing up the kids' sports again. But I do like my daughter playing against bigger, stronger, older and sometimes better players. It will just make her get better.
 
B00ger said:
I wouldn't. Only think I would do would be post to praise my 12 year old for bringing the pain and making it as far as she did.
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This is my only social media. Plus she gets too much attention in v-ball already and most of my time is spent trying to make sure her head can fit through doors. She'll be challenged more than ever this upcoming season of indoor so I suspect the head will do some shrinking on its own.

That was the first NC tournament she didn't win in her age group in over a year. She has played against 14's and 16's and lost but not in 12's. But she played with a local friend instead of her normal partner so it's all good. She got more experience and appreciates her partner more now.
 
My daughter was three time all conference and the regional team in high school volleyball. Turned down a scholarship to play at Catawba College in Salisbury. Played up in JO travel on a team and competed against older kids. Always saw cheating by age in every travel sport but never cared because our younger team in both basketball and volleyball beat 18 teams at 15 years old.

If I could go back in time I would have never spent one dime on travel sports of any kind. My kids excelled in many sports, I waisted a crap load of money that could have went into a college fund. I spent many hundreds a weekend for many months each year. Three kids did travel sports.
 
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Use your time and energy to show your daughter how proud you are of what she does.
 
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BlackGun said:
My daughter was three time all conference and the regional team in high school volleyball. Turned down a scholarship to play at Catawba College in Salisbury. Played up in JO travel on a team and competed against older kids. Always saw cheating by age in every travel sport but never cared because our younger team in both basketball and volleyball beat 18 teams at 15 years old.

If I could go back in time I would have never spent one dime on travel sports of any kind. My kids excelled in many sports, I waisted a crap load of money that could have went into a college fund. I spent many hundreds a weekend for many months each year. Three kids did travel sports.
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While they are playing sports they are busy and not doing other things. There is some value in that. But travel soorts have gotten a little ridiculous on the amunt of travel and costs.
 
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