20 year old looking for a play date

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Every now and then I log into the community Nextdoor. I saw this post:
“Bored 20 year old new to the area! My son is new to the area and has no friends yet, any ideas for him? Thanks“​
I suggested contacting the military recruiter in the area. Now, I wait for the Karen and Kevin replies...that will be interesting.
 
My two sons used to complain about people, women in particular, being glued to their phones. They both have long term ladyfriends now, but they use to say it was nearly impossible to meet women because of phones.
 
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My youngest son will be 24 and is pretty quiet. He’s been good friends with the same 7-8 guys he played basketball with since sixth grade. They even went to college together, as well as some of the girls they knew.

When he went off to college and came home the first time I asked him if he was making any new friends. He said, “Nope. I brought my own.”
 
Chdamn said:
The best Friends I have I made in my late 20’s and then again in my late 30’s and a couple in my 40’s.
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Check out this guy with his charisma and charm.

I'm gifted and skilled at many things; socializing and making friends ain't one of them. I drag myself through horrendously boring small talk and platitudes, and have very little left for the type of in depth openness and sharing that comes with creating real life friendship. Hell, I typically feel more alone in a group than I do when I am by myself. It's one of those things where I've always been an outsider looking in. After a while, it becomes easier to accept loneliness as a destiny and just turn further inside myself.
 
12151791 said:
Every now and then I log into the community Nextdoor. I saw this post:
“Bored 20 year old new to the area! My son is new to the area and has no friends yet, any ideas for him? Thanks“​
I suggested contacting the military recruiter in the area. Now, I wait for the Karen and Kevin replies...that will be interesting.
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Awesome suggestion. Please update us with Karen and Kevin's meltdowns.
 
premise said:
Check out this guy with his charisma and charm.

I'm gifted and skilled at many things; socializing and making friends ain't one of them. I drag myself through horrendously boring small talk and platitudes, and have very little left for the type of in depth openness and sharing that comes with creating real life friendship. Hell, I typically feel more alone in a group than I do when I am by myself. It's one of those things where I've always been an outsider looking in. After a while, it becomes easier to accept loneliness as a destiny and just turn further inside myself.
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He's an introvert. Seems like he doesn't know it yet. Also too young to know that most people suck.
 
premise said:
Check out this guy with his charisma and charm.

I'm gifted and skilled at many things; socializing and making friends ain't one of them. I drag myself through horrendously boring small talk and platitudes, and have very little left for the type of in depth openness and sharing that comes with creating real life friendship. Hell, I typically feel more alone in a group than I do when I am by myself. It's one of those things where I've always been an outsider looking in. After a while, it becomes easier to accept loneliness as a destiny and just turn further inside myself.
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We should share a fire pit sometime. We can ti- a few drinks and tell each other to piss off every 30 minutes or so.
 
If mom had posted “have bored 20 year old son, anyone need yard work please let me know” he’d have been out making friends so fast you’d see his outline in the front door.
 
premise said:
Check out this guy with his charisma and charm.

I'm gifted and skilled at many things; socializing and making friends ain't one of them. I drag myself through horrendously boring small talk and platitudes, and have very little left for the type of in depth openness and sharing that comes with creating real life friendship. Hell, I typically feel more alone in a group than I do when I am by myself. It's one of those things where I've always been an outsider looking in. After a while, it becomes easier to accept loneliness as a destiny and just turn further inside myself.
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You need a motorcycle. The louder the better. When the four or five guys I ride with head out, there’s no talking, because you can’t.
 
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I heard a psychologist on the radio once say that two men could go fishing together, say nothing to each other all day beyond "pass the beer", and at the end of the day they would both go home thinking it was a wonderful bonding experience.
 
It’s interesting about CFF. I’ve met a lot of folks here and at its predecessor site over the years. Some of the most articulate, skilled at turn of phrase, and choice of words are the quietest in person.
 
fieldgrade said:
It’s interesting about CFF. I’ve met a lot of folks here and at its predecessor site over the years. Some of the most articulate, skilled at turn of phrase, and choice of words are the quietest in person.
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Oh, please, you embarrass me, but your kind words mean so much.
 
I heard a psychologist on the radio once say that two men could go fishing together, say nothing to each other all day beyond "pass the beer", and at the end of the day they would both go home thinking it was a wonderful bonding experience.
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If a man has a chance, he'll go to his "Nothing Box" every time. --- Mark Gungor
 
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GreatGazoo said:
If a man has a chance, he'll go to his "Nothing Box" every time. --- Mark Gungor
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The best two hours you can spend watching YouTube. I saw him live.
 
premise said:
I've gone the cheaper route and just have a Mexican follow me around with a leaf blower.
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But when we arrive at a way point or destination, I can say “Please piss off”, and they know what I’m saying.
 
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CZfool68 said:
The Mexicans know what you are saying too they just don’t give a crap.
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Just read my posts if you care to. Don’t reply to all of them. And yes, I’m drinking whisky tonight, and it doesn’t always mix well with yankee.

No offense to the rest of you who might have moved south.

Dismissed.
 
premise said:
I've gone the cheaper route and just have a Mexican follow me around with a leaf blower.
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I've got a backpack blower and I wear earmuffs. You can say anything you want about me because I won't hear it - if the price is right
 
Sevenshot said:
Just tell him to get a dog. I meet 90% of new friends because of the dogs.
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And make sure to tie a pork chop around the kids neck so the dog will play with him.
 
My parents used to say get a hobby. meet others who like the same hobby, and befriend them. Eventually you'll find some decent people that will stick around, but I guess it's easier to tell this kid to get a phone and ask Google what to do.
 
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