The only thing you can control.

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Not sure who needs to read this but the only damn thing you have 100% control over is your attitude.

You cannot claim control over any other facet of your life. Yeah, you can try hard, work towards goals yada yada, but you don’t actually control those things. Your attitude is it.

Good things happen and bad things happen to everyone. Some people get a bigger dose of the bad and some get a bigger dose of good. But just as many people who have a larger percentage of good happen to them end up miserable as the flip side of the coin. Why? Attitude. How you react to bad situations.

So quit sulking. Quit the poor me self bitch sessions and change your attitude.

This PSA brought to you by whiskey and listening to beach music. But it’s also something I repeat to my kid and I’ve taught the baseball team I’m coaching this year.
 
Someone's had some therapy, I see! Or maybe just naturally smart about stuff. LOL. I tried to explain this idea to someone the other day, but it didn't make a dent.
You can only control you, and how you act, and how you react to things.
 
You can’t control the wind, but you can adjust your sails. I used to think I could fix things by just working harder, but a heart attack changed my perspective. In retro, it was a positive life-changing event.
 
Millie said:
Someone's had some therapy, I see! Or maybe just naturally smart about stuff. LOL. I tried to explain this idea to someone the other day, but it didn't make a dent.
You can only control you, and how you act, and how you react to things.
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Never been in therapy. It’s just what I think I’ve always known.

Of course when I was about 12 my mom was working on her masters in psychology and I used to read her text books and write questions to quiz her with.
 
Red Marley said:
You can’t control the wind, but you can adjust your sails. I used to think I could fix things by just working harder, but a heart attack changed my perspective. In retro, it was a positive life-changing event.
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Lol. More eloquent way of saying the same thing.

I like the cut of your jib my man.
 
Red Marley said:
You can’t control the wind, but you can adjust your sails.
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Excellent analogy!

When making an offshore passage, you take what comes. No changing the weather! Make sail, reduce sail, change course. Much the same with Life and Attitude.
 
Chdamn's Wife said:
You taught this to your wife, too. Wish I could say I was good at it but I am better than I once was.
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You know you’re getting old when you’re not as good as you once were, but your better than you were once. :p
 
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Chdamn said:
Never been in therapy. It’s just what I think I’ve always known.

Of course when I was about 12 my mom was working on her masters in psychology and I used to read her text books and write questions to quiz her with.
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Therapy is awesome, if you do it right....like so much else in life! I started mine to try to figure out my parents' issues....lol. It helped a lot.

I'm still trying to get back to school to eventually get a master's in Social Work so I can be a therapist.
 
georgel said:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

Reinhold Niebuhr
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I spent many hours at AA/ACOA meetings trying to understand my parent's and my ex-husband's addictions.
That small collection of words above has helped me through a lot of turmoil over the decades, and serves for all situations!
 
Red Marley said:
You can’t control the wind, but you can adjust your sails. I used to think I could fix things by just working harder, but a heart attack changed my perspective. In retro, it was a positive life-changing event.
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I can relate - mine was a stroke.
 
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This is what I've said for years-
People mirror what you reflect them.
Hey..everyone is allowed to have a bad day. But if everyday is bad for you, it ain't the rest of the world that has the problem.

I'll be in line at the grocery store for example. My turn to checkout, and the clerk would be dry and unconcerned..just going through the motions. But still, I'll be nice and outgoing and appreciative and all smiles. I work for a living too.
But then I would notice, the person next in line behind me..the clerk would be all friendly and nice to them and extra helpful. I'll be honest, this used to aggravate the crap out of me. Why didn't I rate for the nice treatment? I was super nice to you.

Now I'm not a religious man. But one day God told me-
"Friday...thank you. I don't have to worry about you. You don't even realize it, but you're uplifting people when they need it. And when you do need me to worry about you, that is when I will carry you in my arms...and all will be right with the world."

Try it sometime. I don't know how it works, but it does.
 
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Millie said:
I spent many hours at AA/ACOA meetings trying to understand my parent's and my ex-husband's addictions.
That small collection of words above has helped me through a lot of turmoil over the decades, and serves for all situations!
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Another simple group of words that are as profound as I've ever heard...

I am as God made me.
 
georgel said:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

Reinhold Niebuhr
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I’ve been a friend of Bill Wilson for a few years now, and I’ve learned that, for me, the ONLY thing I have control over on my BEST day is my attitude. I try (failing daily) to place the heavy lifting in my Higher Power’s hands and just be the best me I can be and be of service to others.
 
georgel said:
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.

Reinhold Niebuhr
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The serenity prayer

It took me a long while to accept that and a bit longer to learn how to use it.Was just bitter BS words to me until I had some faith/belief in something to back it up.
 
Amps 13 said:
My therapy dog taught me to never pee into the wind..
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Your dog pee's into the wind?


Yeah you don't tug on superman's cape
You don't spit into the wind
You don't pull the mask off the old lone ranger
And you don't mess around with slim

Jim Croce
 
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"The only thing you can control"

Lots of adages about this. Like in the serenity prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.

Or

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.

However, I say if you're creative you CAN control quite a lot.

Like, you may not be able to make that horse drink, buy you CAN drown the SOB. Then turn him into all kinds of leather goods, glue, and stock up your freezer with horse meat for the season.

Just sayin'...
 
Jordan Peterson wrote a book titled "12 Rules for Life." Rule 6 is set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world. It basically comes across as "clean your damn room." Here is what happens when someone criticizes that rule. Also, his answer to the question starting at 3:02 is classic.

 
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dmarbell said:
Jordan Peterson wrote a book titled "12 Rules for Life." Rule 6 is set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world. It basically comes across as "clean your damn room." Here is what happens when someone criticizes that rule. Also, his answer to the question starting at 3:02 is classic.

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@Chdamn already said "clean your room" ;)
 
dmarbell said:
Jordan Peterson wrote a book titled "12 Rules for Life." Rule 6 is set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world. It basically comes across as "clean your damn room." Here is what happens when someone criticizes that rule. Also, his answer to the question starting at 3:02 is classic.

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I didn't watch the vid yet, but when I read it, I saw it as...


John 8:7 King James Version (KJV)
7 So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.
 
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People are better at solving other people's problems than their own. Time is always the solution but most folks have a hard time managing an hour either long a lifetime, long deep breaths do help.
 
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