Daughter being followed

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I was sitting on couch when my wife got a call from my Daughter. I could tell from the sound of my wife’s voice that something was not right. She told my wife that someone in a white care had been following her since she left work. My wife asked me what she should do as she was about 5 minutes away. I said to come home and don’t stop.
In about 3 minutes I had my AR loaded and red dot on and was walking into the garage as i hit the door to open. At that point my daughter (still on phone) told my wife that the car had followed her through the turn around but as soon as she turned onto our street it sped off.
Maybe I should have called the cops or not done what I did but I honestly only cared about keeping that person away from my daughter. Only thing I really was upset about was not grabbing a handgun as backup.
Did I do wrong?
 
I would have done the exact same thing.
 
You did what you needed to do to get her home safe!
Does your daughter carry a gun?
 
You could consider a "minute man" set up staged near the rifle. A lightweight carrier with a few items that you can don and doff quickly may be ticket.
 
Button Pusher said:
That car may return soon. They have her plate and may see the car in the driveway. Stay frosty.
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That would be my concern. If she turned into a neighborhood, they know where shes headed or possibly lives. Next time direct her not to come straight home, jump in the truck and head their direction being as they were so close. If they were in fact following her, fall in line get vehicle description and tag number. Have her go to a public place etc and see what they do. Continue over watch as needed.

I'll add, hats off to your girl for paying attention to whats going on behind her. Obviously has a good head on her shoulders.
 
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you did fine.

I perhaps would have stayed a little hidden on the side of the house, or by a tree, to catch a plate or a look at the driver as they went past, if they would have.
You would have had the drop if they stopped and got out.
 
Tell her the next time she leaves work, if possible and she can see where her car is parked from inside the building, scan the parking lot and see if that car is anywhere around.

If it is and especially if someone is in it, tell her to call you.

Don’t confront them. Sit in a good spot where you can follow them if they start following your daughter...now you’ve got a tag# and a description of the folks in the car (if you can see them).

If she’s ever followed by them and they tap her bumper, say, at a stoplight, tell her DO NOT get out, DO NOT roll down her window and DO NOT stay there...DRIVE STRAIGHT HOME.
 
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I had a similar event happen to my wife. She was shopping at a local Kroger when a guy started to follow her through the store and to her car. She called, I told her to drive around the main roads, but be at a certain parking lot in 15minutes. I opened the safe, took out the M1A and multiple mags, 1911 with multiple mags and 12ga. I had the car loaded and was about to leave when my son asked if I was going hunting. "Yup, in a manner of speaking" I got to the entrance of our development when she called and said he wasn't behind her any longer.

When seconds count, the cops are minutes away, and they will probably kill your dog.
 
I’m not trained in counter-anything so my opinion is just one of another dad, not professional...

yes I think you did exactly what I would have done. At that distance from home, priority would be to get HER home. Anything else would distract from that

From the retrospective arm chair here (probably wouldn’t have thought about it if never read this) is I would have had myself or wife get in car and head toward her to close the gap of time to one of us.
 
Bank etc with cameras is good idea-ish...if she were farther I’d half consider it.


The flip side that I don’t like about that is those parking lots are dark and empty at this time. Evidence only useful if there IS a crime, her the goal is to prevent one.
 
Tough situation, hope she's not too shook up.

Im tor on this - get her home quick as possible, or have her take a different route and 'throw off the scent,' if you will, of the following car so that they DONT know general area you live in.
I think you did right, but can see one other option
 
Generally speaking, as long as her wheels are rolling she is OK. Like dave951 posted, stick to main roads, make random turns, etc. Easy to nail down if someone is really following or not. Buy time to get out there or in the area if someone is really following. I've know instances where people were followed leaving stores/atms/etc followed to their neighborhood only to be robbed later.
 
Very good Dad! Now teach how to handle them herself if she can’t raise you.
Here’s some ... DO NOT PANIC ...
  • 4 turns ... all rights if she can left turns can hang you up in traffic
  • head for police or fire stations if possible and pull losing her horn ... a hospital will do in a pinch or any other heavier populated area ... do not go home alone for them to follow
  • do not get hung up at stops ... left turns at stop lights especially ... or places where they can block her in. That means if coming to a stop light or stop sign do not get to close to vehicles in front of her to be boxed in.
  • hands free sets up automatically if possible so a quick call to 911 hopefully to get units rolling towards her location
There are other defensive driving things but those 4 will handle 99% of the idiots out there.
 
Don't know what your situation is but if it was me and I could swing it I would be in her parking lot at work when she gets off next time to see if anyone follows her again. Don't focus to much on just white cars. They could be using a different one next time. If you can't do that have her keep her phone ready to use and dial you. If you have access to another phone you can call 911 while on the way to meet her and keep her on the phone with you.
 
Not sure what I’d have done, probably told her to tell me where she is and then hang up and call 911, and to keep rolling at pretty much any cost.

Consider if the car had followed her and pulled in front of the house, or even in the driveway. What then? At best you’re in a precarious legal position, at worst you get shot in self defense or you shoot a guy for literally getting out of his car.
 
Take a length of about 6 feet of nylon rope. Wrap 5 1ft wide sections of duct tape around it until they are a little thicker than a hot dog. Push a bunch of 6d nails, roofing tacks, etc through the rolls of tape going in every direction. Have her keep it in the car. Should that same car follow her again, she needs to pick it up, folded all into one piece, roll down her window, hold it down on the top of the car, and let it go. Then she can call you with the area of the car that now has at least 2 flat tires.
 
I’ve never been in the situation and with the benefit of dealing with it theoretically, I think the right course would have been to have her drive right to the cop shop. Get on the horn with them to alert.

I would NOT want a stalker knowing where she lives is my rationale.
 
Tim said:
I’ve never been in the situation and with the benefit of dealing with it theoretically, I think the right course would have been to have her drive right to the cop shop. Get on the horn with them to alert.

I would NOT want a stalker knowing where she lives is my rationale.
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That does make sense to avoid future confrontation.T

Hard to think that out in a 30 second reaction sometimes.I

Some thought on this type situation might do us all well!
 
Tim said:
I’ve never been in the situation and with the benefit of dealing with it theoretically, I think the right course would have been to have her drive right to the cop shop. Get on the horn with them to alert.

I would NOT want a stalker knowing where she lives is my rationale.
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for a “next time” situation would def have her pull up a few houses down the street (preselected as good vantage point). But caught off guard as he was, think the right decision was straight the F home. Sounds like car already knew which street was hers if it was literally the only one he didn’t turn into entire way back...
 
You guys are getting way too complicated...

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Under the circumstances, you did fine. Once they get eyeballed, they likely stay away, especially if they see you with an AR. My wife got followed from the gas station a while back. She drove past the house and did a sudden U'y at an intersection up the country road and looked at them as the suddenly turn down the other road and sped away. They lost their element of surprise.
 
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Maybe let her drive another vehicle for a little while if that's an option. I'd still report it to the police and I'd also make a couple appearances around the parking lot when she gets off while exercising my 2nd Amendment rights.
You did great. She's safe and that's all that matters. I like the idea about a rear facing camera for her vehicle only. I wouldn't have one on myself. If things go south I want to be the only one telling what happened.
 
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BBD280 said:
Maybe let her drive another vehicle for a little while if that's an option. I'd still report it to the police and I'd also make a couple appearances around the parking lot when she gets off while exercising my 2nd Amendment rights.
You did great. She's safe and that's all that matters. I like the idea about a rear facing camera for her vehicle only. I wouldn't have one on myself. If things go south I want to be the only one telling what happened.
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Probably the smartest thing you've ever come up with.

Congrats!
 
Get her a dash cam ASAP!!!! Proof of the following (get the one with front and rear cameras). I got my daughter the Rexing V1LG...it has dual cams...about $90 on Amazon when they had a sale.
While your daughter was in phone with wife, and as you loaded your AR etc..I would have called police on your cell.
Let them know what's going on. You never know where a cop may be...might be 29 mins away....or literally around the corner. Might could have seen the perpetrator...do a traffic stop etc

But your daughter is safe....and that's all that matters. Definitely stress the importance of scanning the area...walk with groups to car etc.
Stay safe brother

DS
 
Also....

Get the Life360 app. I believe they have it for Droid or Apple.
It's a GPS enabled app to SEE where people in your circle are...wife...daughter.... grandma..whoever.
It's nice to know where they are if u need to get to them....cause my daughter still doesn't know all the streets she turns on..she just knows a few ways to get from point A to point B. I've stressed the importance of knowing where she is at...but you know how that goes.

DS
 
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DirtySCREW said:
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Get the Life360 app. I believe they have it for Droid or Apple.
It's a GPS enabled app to SEE where people in your circle are...wife...daughter.... grandma..whoever.
It's nice to know where they are if u need to get to them....cause my daughter still doesn't know all the streets she turns on..she just knows a few ways to get from point A to point B. I've stressed the importance of knowing where she is at...but you know how that goes.

DS
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My wife uses something called glympse.
 
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premise said:
And, dang, you have a daughter old enough to drive? Kudos on the good genes; I thought you were young.
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Get her a pistol to carry.

One of my grand daughters was followed. It scared her enough that she called her dad. I gave her a S&W 642 so she has at least a fighting chance.

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