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I miss the south.

The battery in my Outback is toast. I bought the car new in 2017 and it is 6 months outside the factory warranty. Apparently the batteries from the factory are pretty crappy and are known not to last very long.

Oh well not a big deal. So I’m still working from home and pulled the battery and sent my wife to Autozone to get a new one.

I put it in the truck and told her to just some them the picture I sent and they will grab the core and put the new one on the floor for her.

She gets back and tells me they made her bring the old one in and carry the new one out. I didn’t send gloves because I assumed they’d carry it.

Said the people working were a bunch of high school age kids. No manners whatsoever. I would hope this wouldn’t happen in the south. I’m in disbelief that young boys are that clueless to not help an attractive woman who is by themself. SMH
 
I think that’s a general laziness thing, often tied to the younger generation. It certainly not exclusive. These days, I never expect people to do something nice or beyond the minimum required. Heck, getting rung up without waiting a while is considered good now.
 
I mean they offer free installation and the store was empty. The work was already done all they had to do was wheel their cart out with the new one, place it on the floor of the truck, and put the old one back on their cart. They don’t even have to carry it.
 
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Not a North/South thing. My 21 yr old daughter needed a new battery and I did the same as you. She had the same experience at our local O’Reilly that your wife did. People are just getting lazier lately
 
I thought many people I met in Colorado were fake friendly, not as genuine as people from NC although I wouldn't count Raleigh in the NC part as much anymore.
 
matttahoe53 said:
I miss the south.

The battery in my Outback is toast. I bought the car new in 2017 and it is 6 months outside the factory warranty. Apparently the batteries from the factory are pretty crappy and are known not to last very long.

Oh well not a big deal. So I’m still working from home and pulled the battery and sent my wife to Autozone to get a new one.

I put it in the truck and told her to just some them the picture I sent and they will grab the core and put the new one on the floor for her.

She gets back and tells me they made her bring the old one in and carry the new one out. I didn’t send gloves because I assumed they’d carry it.

Said the people working were a bunch of high school age kids. No manners whatsoever. I would hope this wouldn’t happen in the south. I’m in disbelief that young boys are that clueless to not help an attractive woman who is by themself. SMH
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Bocephus said:
Not a North/South thing. My 21 yr old daughter needed a new battery and I did the same as you. She had the same experience at our local O’Reilly that your wife did. People are just getting lazier lately
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Unbelievable. What do they think they are getting paid for? Helping people and staying busy makes the time fly.
 
The South ONCE had hospitality. Are there many southerners left? I ‘ve found western PA and western NY people to be more service friendly than Southerners. Coming from a NC guy.
 
Such things make those with manners stand out a bit more.
The difference between our hometown (Asheville) and our retirement town (Laurens, SC) is more than noticeable.
At the Walmart in Laurens the cashiers stand at their aisle when empty, beckoning you with a smile. In Asheville, they act like you're the reason that they don't have the day off.
 
My wife is disabled and I'm amazed at what local workers will do for her without question. 50lb bag of dog food for example. Of course she is a very nice lady and a regular at most of the local places so folks go out of their way for her.
 
matttahoe53 said:
I miss the south.

The battery in my Outback is toast. I bought the car new in 2017 and it is 6 months outside the factory warranty. Apparently the batteries from the factory are pretty crappy and are known not to last very long.

Oh well not a big deal. So I’m still working from home and pulled the battery and sent my wife to Autozone to get a new one.

I put it in the truck and told her to just some them the picture I sent and they will grab the core and put the new one on the floor for her.

She gets back and tells me they made her bring the old one in and carry the new one out. I didn’t send gloves because I assumed they’d carry it.

Said the people working were a bunch of high school age kids. No manners whatsoever. I would hope this wouldn’t happen in the south. I’m in disbelief that young boys are that clueless to not help an attractive woman who is by themself. SMH
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Five years ago I asked the local Raleigh store to test my alternator and battery in car, they told me they can't do that. :eek:
Email to corporate HQ took care of that real fast. Went to the store near my night job and they took care of me.
Be sure to order online and use the promo codes, not all of them work on batteries but you can pick what you need
and skip any clueless counter reps. The store near my day job has several young ladies who know their stuff.
 
BatteryOaksBilly said:
I'd say it's not as prevalent.


AND as my Pard @premise points out...Will Not come to work on Time!
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Coming to work on time is only the start of it. I had to fire a recent college grad for refusing to use his notes or learn to do a core part of his job, ignoring customers’ calls and emails, and more. Lazy and no sense of responsibility! He was also always 10min+ late but if he did his job well, I couldn’t care less what time he came in.
 
Sp00ks said:
My wife is disabled and I'm amazed at what local workers will do for her without question. 50lb bag of dog food for example. Of course she is a very nice lady and a regular at most of the local places so folks go out of their way for her.
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That's because you live in my town. :)
 
Button Pusher said:
Five years ago I asked the local Raleigh store to test my alternator and battery in car, they told me they can't do that. :eek:
Email to corporate HQ took care of that real fast. Went to the store near my night job and they took care of me.
Be sure to order online and use the promo codes, not all of them work on batteries but you can pick what you need
and skip any clueless counter reps. The store near my day job has several young ladies who know their stuff.
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That's what I did when I bought the battery for my car about two years ago. I've been in the automotive industry since before the goobers working at Auto Zone were born ( literally, since 1974 ) so I trust me to look up te right part more than I do them.

So I place the order online, go to the store and get my battery. Bring it home, replace the old one and take the core back. Because I placed the order online no one at the store knew how to process the credit for the core ( the manager was not there ). Made two more trips back over two days before I got the core refund. And that was the last time I was in an Auto Zone.

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It's hit or miss, for sure. Went to Autozone with the wife to pick up a rear windshield wiper and the young fella there practically ran out to her car to put the damn thing on in the pouring rain. Granted, she is thin and attractive, but he seemed pretty genuine. I thought I was going to have to break his damn arm to make him take the 10 dollar bill I proffered in appreciation for his hustle.

Conversely, the older Southern men at the county dump won't life a damn finger to help an old lady carry a bag of trash to the dumpster. If I was their boss, I would be out there with a bamboo fishing rod switching the hell out of their legs.

I see little things fall by the wayside that bother me, like men wearing hats in restaurants and walking on the inside of the sidewalk with their women and children. Watching a woman pump gas while her "boyfriend" sits in the car pisses me off to no end. Hell, I'll spit on the sidewalk, but I still put my eating utensils at 4 o'clock when I finish eating.
 
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To the OP; Southern women are polite and courteous except when disrespected or abused. Your wife needs to learn the fine art of getting things done the Southern way. My mother, a Southern lady, would have had the attendant by the ear leading him with the battery in hand to and from the vehicle all the while apologizing for his or her rude behavior.

By the way, it’s the South, not the south.
 
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OldNascar said:
To the OP; Southern women are polite and courteous except when disrespected or abused. Your wife needs to learn the fine art of getting things done the Southern way. My mother, a Southern lady, would have had the attendant by the ear leading him with the battery in hand to and from the vehicle all the while apologizing for his or her rude behavior.

By the way, it’s the South, not the south.
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I gave you a like because your not getting one on this forum for having different views than theirs.
 
OldNascar said:
To the OP; Southern women are polite and courteous except when disrespected or abused. Your wife needs to learn the fine art of getting things done the Southern way. My mother, a Southern lady, would have had the attendant by the ear leading him with the battery in hand to and from the vehicle all the while apologizing for his or her rude behavior.

By the way, it’s the South, not the south.
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Makes sense, but she is a Midwesterner and you just get stuff done and move on.
 
OldNascar said:
To the OP; Southern women are polite and courteous except when disrespected or abused. Your wife needs to learn the fine art of getting things done the Southern way. My mother, a Southern lady, would have had the attendant by the ear leading him with the battery in hand to and from the vehicle all the while apologizing for his or her rude behavior.
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BlackGun said:
I gave you a like because your not getting one on this forum for having different views than theirs.
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Thanks, on another note I do my auto parts business with NAPA where the attendants know manners but also how to find the right part, first time, every time.
 
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Several years ago I was entering one of the locals haunts for lunch.
A lady got out of her car and I waited to hold the door open for her.
When she went through the door she said for All to hear....I could have opened that for myself.......
I said...for All to hear...I apologize Mam, my Grand Mother always taught me to open doors for Ladys....I mistook you for one.......
Much🤩🤣😂😄:D followed....she was mortified. I was :).
 
Complaining about the lack of young-uns manners started on the internet in 1938.
And just like then, it not because the collapse of society, it's because y'all live in a s***hole city.
 
It's why I use carquest. The one in sanford seems to have had the exact same employees for the past 5 years. They know you by name and treat you right. Even though they are now part of one of the other chains, nothing seems to have changed other than some signage.
 
premise said:
It's hit or miss, for sure. Went to Autozone with the wife to pick up a rear windshield wiper and the young fella there practically ran out to her car to put the damn thing on in the pouring rain. Granted, she is thin and attractive, but he seemed pretty genuine. I thought I was going to have to break his damn arm to make him take the 10 dollar bill I proffered in appreciation for his hustle.
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One time I bought new wiper blades and the clerk offered to install them for me, so I said sure. My wife made fun of the fact that I let a girl change them for me. Hey, I’m an equal sort of guy. Girls can work on cars too.
 
I went into the Food Lion the other evening. Grabbed a hand basket and bought few items. Set basket on conveyor. Two cute girls working there and some young dork (employee) standing there trying to flirt with them.
Girl rings me up and other girl bags up my stuff. I push empty basket towards dork and grab my bags, thank young ladies and start to walk out.
Dork picks up basket, tries handing it to me while saying "here, go ahead and put this where you found it"!

Haha, not likely son.
 
NKD said:
I went into the Food Lion the other evening. Grabbed a hand basket and bought few items. Set basket on conveyor. Two cute girls working there and some young dork (employee) standing there trying to flirt with them.
Girl rings me up and other girl bags up my stuff. I push empty basket towards dork and grab my bags, thank young ladies and start to walk out.
Dork picks up basket, tries handing it to me while saying "here, go ahead and put this where you found it"!

Haha, not likely son.
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"Well young feller, if memory serves, I believe I found this here basket up your ass."
 
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slow is slow said:
It's why I use carquest. The one in sanford seems to have had the exact same employees for the past 5 years. They know you by name and treat you right. Even though they are now part of one of the other chains, nothing seems to have changed other than some signage.
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Shopped Motor, Bearings & Parts since 1990, same experience after they joined Carquest, now Advance.
 
You aren't necessarily going to get better service/manners "in the South". It's as much an individual experience as it is regional.

Parts/price bring people in. Service keeps people coming back.


As for the battery itself...

Most batteries are good for three years. If you get a quality one, it might carry a longer warranty. But in general, if a battery lasts longer than three years, consider yourself on borrowed time at that point, and every month with no problems a blessing. If you have a quality one with a 5 year warranty, consider every month past the 5 year point a blessing.

Which means two things:

Either be prepared to replace a battery over 3 to 5 years old at the drop of a hat at the first sign of problems...

OR

Preventatively replace it at that point, especially if you're about to embark on a road trip or something like that.

Batteries are easy to replace, of course, but if it goes bad it will represent an added load challenge for the alternator, which means you run the risk of damaging your alternator if you try to "live" with a defective battery by continuing to jump start the vehicle for a while. A $100 dollar (give or take) battery change out can now turn into a $300 or more battery/alternator job.
 
RetiredUSNChief said:
You aren't necessarily going to get better service/manners "in the South". It's as much an individual experience as it is regional.

Parts/price bring people in. Service keeps people coming back.


As for the battery itself...

Most batteries are good for three years. If you get a quality one, it might carry a longer warranty. But in general, if a battery lasts longer than three years, consider yourself on borrowed time at that point, and every month with no problems a blessing. If you have a quality one with a 5 year warranty, consider every month past the 5 year point a blessing.

Which means two things:

Either be prepared to replace a battery over 3 to 5 years old at the drop of a hat at the first sign of problems...

OR

Preventatively replace it at that point, especially if you're about to embark on a road trip or something like that.

Batteries are easy to replace, of course, but if it goes bad it will represent an added load challenge for the alternator, which means you run the risk of damaging your alternator if you try to "live" with a defective battery by continuing to jump start the vehicle for a while. A $100 dollar (give or take) battery change out can now turn into a $300 or more battery/alternator job.
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I knew the battery was going bad it’s just annoying when I can let my 22 year old truck sit for 5-6 weeks with 5 year old yellow tops setup with a dual battery link recovery and it will start.

Since I’ve been working from home I’ve been to test it’s limits. I love that truck. Now to get a place so it doesn’t have to live outside all the time.
 
noway2 said:
One time I bought new wiper blades and the clerk offered to install them for me, so I said sure. My wife made fun of the fact that I let a girl change them for me. Hey, I’m an equal sort of guy. Girls can work on cars too.
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You ask her if she would let a man wash dishes or make you a sandwich?
 
slow is slow said:
It's why I use carquest. The one in sanford seems to have had the exact same employees for the past 5 years. They know you by name and treat you right. Even though they are now part of one of the other chains, nothing seems to have changed other than some signage.
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"People buy from people" said someone in my distant past.

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