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My wife and her sister inherited a house and property this week. The sister gets 80%, my wife gets 20%. Sounds good, huh? Well, the house was owned by the same person that gave me this truck a few years ago.

When It Rains....It Pours

Barbara is my wife's sister. Roger is one of her ex-husbands. They have been divorced many years but they are still friends. Roger is in poor health, has a pacemaker, kidney failure, extremely high blood pressure, etc. The only friends that Roger has is Barbara, Joanne, and me. I have...
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The old guy died this past Wednesday morning. He bought this house about 2 years ago and Joane and her sister stopped by one day and they said he had a mess but he was just getting settled after moving in. No one had been to his place since. He and the sister had a falling out and he just went away for a while. I saw him around town now and then driving a Hyundai. I saw his car at WalMart one day and walked by it. I looked inside and it looked just like that Dodge truck.

He came back around recently and said he was sick and going to need surgery and wanted the sister to drive him to the hospital when it was time. He went for the pre-op visit and they took him straight to the hospital. This was on Friday, he died Wednesday morning.

Since Joanne is down with her ankle, I went with SIL to the house to look for the will and any other important documents. I found the will and it stated the 80/20 split. I expected the place to be a mess but, I wasn't prepared for what I saw. How do people live like this?

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This guy sold a house in December of 2022 and came away with over $215K in his pocket. He blew every penny and this is all he has to show for it, plus a lot of credit card debt. SIL is the executor of the estate and she has an appointment with the lawyer on Monday. The person that owns the joining property has already made an offer to take it as is. I would accept his offer, if it was me. But, there may be money owed on the house and the lawyer will let her what she can do. Meanwhile, I have my fingers crossed for a lightning strike.
 
I'm very disorganized, but i'm not sloppy. I may have piles of gun stuff that need to be sorted, but things are clean, i have traps i monitor for bugs and mice that get curious about the inside world, etc. I can usually say "i left X in pile Y 2 years ago" and then go find it. But I certainly don't save old bath water in the tub.

I constantly wonder how some of the employees at work live, given the messes they leave in the break room.
Thanks for educating me. thanks - i think...
 
noway2 said:
That’s just sad. Depression, inability to take care of oneself, and the hoarding illness all combined.
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I was raised in a house like that, no running hot water most of my childhood, my bedroom for a few years was a nest of blankets under a desk in the master bedroom that you had to crawl through a tunnel I made of junk and boxes to get to.

I've realised I can tolerate absolutely foul living conditions and struggle with order and hoarding ever since. It's a real slog to maintain better standards than that. Once you acclimate it is incredible what you can tolerate.
 
Geezer said:
My wife and her sister inherited a house and property this week. The sister gets 80%, my wife gets 20%. Sounds good, huh? Well, the house was owned by the same person that gave me this truck a few years ago.

When It Rains....It Pours

Barbara is my wife's sister. Roger is one of her ex-husbands. They have been divorced many years but they are still friends. Roger is in poor health, has a pacemaker, kidney failure, extremely high blood pressure, etc. The only friends that Roger has is Barbara, Joanne, and me. I have...
carolinafirearmsforum.com

The old guy died this past Wednesday morning. He bought this house about 2 years ago and Joane and her sister stopped by one day and they said he had a mess but he was just getting settled after moving in. No one had been to his place since. He and the sister had a falling out and he just went away for a while. I saw him around town now and then driving a Hyundai. I saw his car at WalMart one day and walked by it. I looked inside and it looked just like that Dodge truck.

He came back around recently and said he was sick and going to need surgery and wanted the sister to drive him to the hospital when it was time. He went for the pre-op visit and they took him straight to the hospital. This was on Friday, he died Wednesday morning.

Since Joanne is down with her ankle, I went with SIL to the house to look for the will and any other important documents. I found the will and it stated the 80/20 split. I expected the place to be a mess but, I wasn't prepared for what I saw. How do people live like this?

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This guy sold a house in December of 2022 and came away with over $215K in his pocket. He blew every penny and this is all he has to show for it, plus a lot of credit card debt. SIL is the executor of the estate and she has an appointment with the lawyer on Monday. The person that owns the joining property has already made an offer to take it as is. I would accept his offer, if it was me. But, there may be money owed on the house and the lawyer will let her what she can do. Meanwhile, I have my fingers crossed for a lightning strike.
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Food for thought. How do you know he blew the money? We have some friends who went to clean out her parents house after they died and found over $30,000 in cash hidden in the house.
 
I can understand the hoarding thing. What I cannot understand is just plain old nastiness. When you finish a drink you just don't throw your cup or can on the floor. When you spill something, wipe it up. I would bet that I could fill Troy's 5 gallon bucket with mouse turds. But, I never saw the first roach. I guess it was too nasty for them.
 
NCLivingBrit said:
I was raised in a house like that, no running hot water most of my childhood, my bedroom for a few years was a nest of blankets under a desk in the master bedroom that you had to crawl through a tunnel I made of junk and boxes to get to.

I've realised I can tolerate absolutely foul living conditions and struggle with order and hoarding ever since. It's a real slog to maintain better standards than that. Once you acclimate it is incredible what you can tolerate.
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One of my buddies is a slob. like letting potato chips get round into the floors until the grease seeps into the wood. He was navy, so this made no sense to me at all.
then one night he was like "hey my mom sent me this computer to work on, wanna help me check it out?" and it was FULL of dead things and crud. I was like "tell her it's unfixible and put it in the trash"
Then his sister had to move in with him and take a spare room with her husband - both on disability, both even worse than him.
Ah, this is generational mental illness. i understand.
 
Wife’s parents are hoarders…..not the tv show level, but enough to be ridiculous. And now they’re too old to do anything about it. Told the wife she’s got 5 minutes in there to grab what she wants after they pass, and then I’m gonna use a match to clean the rest.
 
Geezer said:
I can understand the hoarding thing. What I cannot understand is just plain old nastiness. When you finish a drink you just don't throw your cup or can on the floor. When you spill something, wipe it up. I would bet that I could fill Troy's 5 gallon bucket with mouse turds. But, I never saw the first roach. I guess it was too nasty for them.
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all those mouse turds ARE the roaches. the more mice you have the less roaches will be able to escape their bitey little teefs.
personally, i greatly prefer to have none of either.
 
DrScaryGuy said:
Ah, this is generational mental illness. i understand.
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Kind of yeah. Its tough to care about fixing something you've had to learn to totally ignore because you were powerless to change it. Periodically I slash and burn the piles, but it's so easy to let it accumulate, you don't even see it.
 
Geezer said:
My wife and her sister inherited a house and property this week. The sister gets 80%, my wife gets 20%. Sounds good, huh? Well, the house was owned by the same person that gave me this truck a few years ago.

When It Rains....It Pours

Barbara is my wife's sister. Roger is one of her ex-husbands. They have been divorced many years but they are still friends. Roger is in poor health, has a pacemaker, kidney failure, extremely high blood pressure, etc. The only friends that Roger has is Barbara, Joanne, and me. I have...
carolinafirearmsforum.com

The old guy died this past Wednesday morning. He bought this house about 2 years ago and Joane and her sister stopped by one day and they said he had a mess but he was just getting settled after moving in. No one had been to his place since. He and the sister had a falling out and he just went away for a while. I saw him around town now and then driving a Hyundai. I saw his car at WalMart one day and walked by it. I looked inside and it looked just like that Dodge truck.

He came back around recently and said he was sick and going to need surgery and wanted the sister to drive him to the hospital when it was time. He went for the pre-op visit and they took him straight to the hospital. This was on Friday, he died Wednesday morning.

Since Joanne is down with her ankle, I went with SIL to the house to look for the will and any other important documents. I found the will and it stated the 80/20 split. I expected the place to be a mess but, I wasn't prepared for what I saw. How do people live like this?

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This guy sold a house in December of 2022 and came away with over $215K in his pocket. He blew every penny and this is all he has to show for it, plus a lot of credit card debt. SIL is the executor of the estate and she has an appointment with the lawyer on Monday. The person that owns the joining property has already made an offer to take it as is. I would accept his offer, if it was me. But, there may be money owed on the house and the lawyer will let her what she can do. Meanwhile, I have my fingers crossed for a lightning strike.
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Compared to that the truck looked immaculate.
 
I’d check for stashed cash, but otherwise assume that the creditors will take the house. Sure wouldn’t put in any time or cash to deal with it until things were settled.

Feel bad for the guy, but honestly he probably never noticed.
 
Schattenreiter said:
Food for thought. How do you know he blew the money? We have some friends who went to clean out her parents house after they died and found over $30,000 in cash hidden in the house.
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I don't know for sure but I did find a notice from a collection agency trying to collect $44K.
 
the original question:
"How do people live like this?"

apparently well enough to continue doing it
for long enough to accumulate what is shown.

i have seen one similar interior to this.
it was an alcoholic's who got it in the will.
my father-in-law used to check up on him
since he was distant family. that is how i got
to see the inside. he had a dog. dog crap
everywhere in addition to the rest.
 
Geezer said:
My wife and her sister inherited a house and property this week. The sister gets 80%, my wife gets 20%. Sounds good, huh? Well, the house was owned by the same person that gave me this truck a few years ago.

When It Rains....It Pours

Barbara is my wife's sister. Roger is one of her ex-husbands. They have been divorced many years but they are still friends. Roger is in poor health, has a pacemaker, kidney failure, extremely high blood pressure, etc. The only friends that Roger has is Barbara, Joanne, and me. I have...
carolinafirearmsforum.com

The old guy died this past Wednesday morning. He bought this house about 2 years ago and Joane and her sister stopped by one day and they said he had a mess but he was just getting settled after moving in. No one had been to his place since. He and the sister had a falling out and he just went away for a while. I saw him around town now and then driving a Hyundai. I saw his car at WalMart one day and walked by it. I looked inside and it looked just like that Dodge truck.

He came back around recently and said he was sick and going to need surgery and wanted the sister to drive him to the hospital when it was time. He went for the pre-op visit and they took him straight to the hospital. This was on Friday, he died Wednesday morning.

Since Joanne is down with her ankle, I went with SIL to the house to look for the will and any other important documents. I found the will and it stated the 80/20 split. I expected the place to be a mess but, I wasn't prepared for what I saw. How do people live like this?

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This guy sold a house in December of 2022 and came away with over $215K in his pocket. He blew every penny and this is all he has to show for it, plus a lot of credit card debt. SIL is the executor of the estate and she has an appointment with the lawyer on Monday. The person that owns the joining property has already made an offer to take it as is. I would accept his offer, if it was me. But, there may be money owed on the house and the lawyer will let her what she can do. Meanwhile, I have my fingers crossed for a lightning strike.
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Sadly I see at least one house a year like that and a bunch not as bad but so cluttered up and nasty no one here would live in them. I’ll never forget one that had a pile of what I thought was dog shit in the carpet that had been stepped on. The lady said “that’s not what you think it is, it’s a candy bar I dropped and stepped on” like that made it ok. I’ve actually called DSS and reported nasty conditions when kids lived in the house.
 
My aunt had 3 properties like that or worse. We had to hire a cleaning crew that wore tyvek suits and respirators.
 
Geezer said:
My wife and her sister inherited a house and property this week. The sister gets 80%, my wife gets 20%. Sounds good, huh? Well, the house was owned by the same person that gave me this truck a few years ago.

When It Rains....It Pours

Barbara is my wife's sister. Roger is one of her ex-husbands. They have been divorced many years but they are still friends. Roger is in poor health, has a pacemaker, kidney failure, extremely high blood pressure, etc. The only friends that Roger has is Barbara, Joanne, and me. I have...
carolinafirearmsforum.com

The old guy died this past Wednesday morning. He bought this house about 2 years ago and Joane and her sister stopped by one day and they said he had a mess but he was just getting settled after moving in. No one had been to his place since. He and the sister had a falling out and he just went away for a while. I saw him around town now and then driving a Hyundai. I saw his car at WalMart one day and walked by it. I looked inside and it looked just like that Dodge truck.

He came back around recently and said he was sick and going to need surgery and wanted the sister to drive him to the hospital when it was time. He went for the pre-op visit and they took him straight to the hospital. This was on Friday, he died Wednesday morning.

Since Joanne is down with her ankle, I went with SIL to the house to look for the will and any other important documents. I found the will and it stated the 80/20 split. I expected the place to be a mess but, I wasn't prepared for what I saw. How do people live like this?

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This guy sold a house in December of 2022 and came away with over $215K in his pocket. He blew every penny and this is all he has to show for it, plus a lot of credit card debt. SIL is the executor of the estate and she has an appointment with the lawyer on Monday. The person that owns the joining property has already made an offer to take it as is. I would accept his offer, if it was me. But, there may be money owed on the house and the lawyer will let her what she can do. Meanwhile, I have my fingers crossed for a lightning strike.
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The first house I ever owned was like this with the owner diying in his bed. The bed was gone when I got there but the stink was still there.

I was home on terminal leave from the Army. My family lived with my family.

Dug a20 by 20 pit behind the barn to take all the junk. Used my Army issued Chem suit and gas mask.

Lots of wheelbarrow trips to the pit. Steam cleaned lots of stuff.

Found a few guns, knifes, and lots of tools.

All most filled up the pit.

Paid a friend to strip and redo the wood floors.

It was a nice house.
 
Was he pooping in the kitchen sink?
 
That's bad, but I've seen worse sadly. Often with people and kids still living in them.

When my mother died I had to clean out her house... it wasn't filthy, rather the opposite, it was clean but packed to the gills with so much stuff, she just didn't throw anything out.
Out of a 3 bedroom house, I took a 4x7 U haul trailer full of things that were valuable or sentimental to me.... everything else I called 180 got junk people and they took 3 trucks of stuff away or donated to Goodwill.

It's true what they say about people not "seeing" the mess after a while.... it's a sad state of affairs for a lot of people
 
noway2 said:
That’s just sad. Depression, inability to take care of oneself, and the hoarding illness all combined.
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My MIL’s house was worse. WAY WORSE. It should have just been bulldozed and leveled and it would have been better. My nephew ended up with it and is STILL trying to make something out of it. It’s been 13 years and it still needs bulldozed!
 
I helped the daughter of a silent key (deceased ham) whose parents were hoarders. It was unbelievable. I took so much old electronics, heath kit equipment, tube testers, parts, pieces, etc. I filled up my living room in high point and they still could have used several dumpsters. It was sad watching their daughter lament how they “left that for her to deal with”. She got dumpsters, she had charity groups come, everything she could think of. It was a total mess.
 
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