My wife's mother just passed...

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My mother-in-law has been living with us for seven years. She couldn't stay by herself after my father-in-law passed away. We put her in our downstairs master. On March 7 she fell and broke her shoulder (impact fracture near the top of the humerus). Also a bad UTI. Sent her home; couple days later she's back. CO2 up, pH down, nonresponsive... Bunch of tests later, her lung cancer had metastasized to her brain/skull. Brought her back home and called hospice. She passed peacefully in her sleep Sunday 0545. Despite all the sorrow and pain there are things to be joyful about...
  • She got to see all her five children one more time - even the one that is disabled and has cancer and can't travel without extreme pain.
  • She wasn't IN pain after we brought her home, despite the arm.
  • Her last spoken word on this earth was "Amen," after she asked for some prayer at one time.
My wife and her sister are making arrangements today. She is the oldest...and we have no children. One third of our household is gone. This is going to be a big adjustment. It is hitting both of us hard. I don't know when or if we will be able to move back into that bedroom. Any prayers that people feel led to offer are appreciated.
 
Oh, man...Im sorry. My wife lost her mom about two weels ago, so I completely understand what youre going through.
You have my sincerest condolences and my prayers.
 
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That's three of us on the forum right in Wake county that have lost MIL's in the past few months. Prayers up for you and yours @RFMan .
 
I'm sorry a part of your household is gone. I pray for you all to have strength.
Having taken care of my mother for 15 years, I know what a huge hole this will leave in your life. It will take adjustment. You will all have to lean on each other. I moved into Mom's room after about 8 months. It was a good move for me. You'll have to find your own time to do it.
I'm glad everyone got to say goodbye, though.
 
Im terribly sorry to hear this man, yall are in my thoughts.
 
Lord, welcome @RFMan mother in law into paradise, where there will be no pain.
 
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Prayers for you, your wife and all of your family.
 
Words sometimes don't seem sufficient at times like this. However know that there are many here and in you daily lives that are lifting you and your family up in prayer. May God comfort you and your family and may you find comfort knowing that your Mother-In-Law seeing her children one last time, the lack of pain and her faith are indeed joyful blessings as you pointed out to be held onto and cherished.
 
So sorry for your families loss. Condolences to you and your family.

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Prayers for you and your wife. Take my advise and move back into the room as soon as possible. Your MIL is not there anymore. She is in your hearts. That being said she is in you hearts no matter where you sleep.
 
I really appreciate the condolences, sentiments, and prayers from all y'all. I'm hurting and miss her too, but my main focus is on my wife. She feels guilty about everything, even though she has absolutely nothing to feel guilty about - she worked her tail off and was very diligent and detail-oriented. She took care of her dad when he had liver cancer 8 years ago, until he passed. She's not going to know how to deal with taking care of herself.
 
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I really appreciate the condolences, sentiments, and prayers from all y'all. I'm hurting and miss her too, but my main focus is on my wife. She feels guilty about everything, even though she has absolutely nothing to feel guilty about - she worked her tail off and was very diligent and detail-oriented. She took care of her dad when he had liver cancer 8 years ago, until he passed. She's not going to know how to deal with taking care of herself.
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Completely normal. When my dad died it was sudden and unexpected. Mom was different. She lived into her 80's while dad went at 55. Both my brother and I felt as if we had never done enuff for mom and she always told everyone what good sons we were. It is natural to feel you could have done more. Tell your wife she was a good daughter and hold her when she needs it. Oh and she will need it a lot.
 
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Completely normal. When my dad died it was sudden and unexpected. Mom was different. She lived into her 80's while dad went at 55. Both my brother and I felt as if we had never done enuff for mom and she always told everyone what good sons we were. It is natural to feel you could have done more. Tell your wife she was a good daughter and hold her when she needs it. Oh and she will need it a lot.
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Thanks...I know she will...I'm still telling her she did a good job with her dad.
 
My prayers and condolences to your family.

Every day you are with your parents is a gift and even in the tuff times.
 
RFMan said:
My mother-in-law has been living with us for seven years. She couldn't stay by herself after my father-in-law passed away. We put her in our downstairs master. On March 7 she fell and broke her shoulder (impact fracture near the top of the humerus). Also a bad UTI. Sent her home; couple days later she's back. CO2 up, pH down, nonresponsive... Bunch of tests later, her lung cancer had metastasized to her brain/skull. Brought her back home and called hospice. She passed peacefully in her sleep Sunday 0545. Despite all the sorrow and pain there are things to be joyful about...
  • She got to see all her five children one more time - even the one that is disabled and has cancer and can't travel without extreme pain.
  • She wasn't IN pain after we brought her home, despite the arm.
  • Her last spoken word on this earth was "Amen," after she asked for some prayer at one time.
My wife and her sister are making arrangements today. She is the oldest...and we have no children. One third of our household is gone. This is going to be a big adjustment. It is hitting both of us hard. I don't know when or if we will be able to move back into that bedroom. Any prayers that people feel led to offer are appreciated.
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Incoming prayers.
 
Wife lost her mother this year. We can relate. Praying for you and your family.
 
Thank you all.

My wife and I just went and viewed her before cremation. Rough.
 
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