Never thought I would be this guy, but upset over pending loss of pet

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Heavy Barrel

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Vet is coming to our home Monday to euthanize our 18 year old cat. She is no longer eating, drinking or using her litter box. She has been on a decline for some time and can no longer hold up her head or walk.

Really hate we are at this point but it is time. Having the vet do it at home to reduce stress. The least we can do for her.


This cat came to our home as a kitten when my son still lived with us. He named her Ninja. When he moved out of our home the cat stayed. She has become part of the family and will be missed. She has ben my alsrm for the recent past. When she is ready to take over my bed (her favorite napping spot)she would jump up on the bed and walk around on me telling me to get up. i will miss that plus when I take my nap in the afternoons she would join me and allow me to pet her. Helped me to fall asleep.

She is a beautiful animal and a loving pet. Wish we could change things but not in the cards. Just hoping for peaceful passing.


I am a mess, I will cry just as I did when we lost our son's dalmation a few years back. Does that make me weak?


Today is my birthday and I spent part of my day preparing g grave for her under our tulip magnolia tree. She wll get a memorial there as well.
 
You are absolutely not weak. I feel your pain. I just lost a cat to cancer that I did everything I could to help. She had been a part of the family for many years. I miss her dearly. The only fault a cat or dog has is that they don't live long enough.

When you lose such a great member of the family, it leaves a hole in your heart. I have several. The grief will pass, and then you'll still have all of the memories. Say your prayers and maybe you will see her again. God says he will have special things in heaven for us.
 
We have had to do that several times in our life and none of them are good memories.
I do feel that when the kids are grown and gone the pets become a lot more than just pets. The kinda sorta become the kids.
Can't help but becoming emotional when one of them dies.
;)
 
Sorry for your loss. It's much harder to lose a pet than you can imagine. I certainly wasn't prepared for it.
 
Not weak. Kind and empathetic. Animals deserve both kindness and empathy more than we humans do.

So sorry for your loss. It’s never easy, but it’s a small price to pay for 18 years of unwavering loyalty and companionship.
 
Heavy Barrel said:
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Photo from 2020, better times.

Vet is coming to our home Monday to euthanize our 18 year old cat. She is no longer eating, drinking or using her litter box. She has been on a decline for some time and can no longer hold up her head or walk.

Really hate we are at this point but it is time. Having the vet do it at home to reduce stress. The least we can do for her.


This cat came to our home as a kitten when my son still lived with us. He named her Ninja. When he moved out of our home the cat stayed. She has become part of the family and will be missed. She has ben my alsrm for the recent past. When she is ready to take over my bed (her favorite napping spot)she would jump up on the bed and walk around on me telling me to get up. i will miss that plus when I take my nap in the afternoons she would join me and allow me to pet her. Helped me to fall asleep.

She is a beautiful animal and a loving pet. Wish we could change things but not in the cards. Just hoping for peaceful passing.


I am a mess, I will cry just as I did when we lost our son's dalmation a few years back. Does that make me weak?


Today is my birthday and I spent part of my day preparing g grave for her under our tulip magnolia tree. She wll get a memorial there as well.
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Ninja update

She was on her favorite cat bed and next to my wife's recliner. my wife was rubbing and monitoriring her and her heart stopped and she quit breathing. SHE passed on her own terms and time. Still sad and she will be missed. Buried her under the magnolia tree.
 
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Heavy Barrel said:
Ninja update

She was on her favorite cat bed and next to my wife's recliner. my wife was rubbing and monitoriring her and her heart stopped and she quit breathing. SHE passed on her own terms and time. Still sad and she will be missed. Buried her under the magnolia tree.
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She’s at peace now. 🙏🏻
 
Heavy Barrel said:
View attachment 756986

Photo from 2020, better times.

Vet is coming to our home Monday to euthanize our 18 year old cat. She is no longer eating, drinking or using her litter box. She has been on a decline for some time and can no longer hold up her head or walk.

Really hate we are at this point but it is time. Having the vet do it at home to reduce stress. The least we can do for her.


This cat came to our home as a kitten when my son still lived with us. He named her Ninja. When he moved out of our home the cat stayed. She has become part of the family and will be missed. She has ben my alsrm for the recent past. When she is ready to take over my bed (her favorite napping spot)she would jump up on the bed and walk around on me telling me to get up. i will miss that plus when I take my nap in the afternoons she would join me and allow me to pet her. Helped me to fall asleep.

She is a beautiful animal and a loving pet. Wish we could change things but not in the cards. Just hoping for peaceful passing.


I am a mess, I will cry just as I did when we lost our son's dalmation a few years back. Does that make me weak?


Today is my birthday and I spent part of my day preparing g grave for her under our tulip magnolia tree. She wll get a memorial there as well.
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It is hard with pets. We let them in to ours lives, family, and into our heart.

We look out for them and keep them safe. They pass on we fell wrong and cheated by the loss.

You will see them again. I am sure.

Incoming prayers.
 
Not weakness.
18 years is a long life for a cat.
My daughter's cat died suddenly in her arms a day after she got back from a trip. He was not yet 9. That was in January. She just got a new cat a couple weeks ago.
 
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Heavy Barrel said:
SHE passed on her own terms and time.
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Ninja is a pretty kitty. I have a soft spot for black cats as my first was. Very sorry for your loss. She had a long life and got to go on her terms, which while never easy is easier than the alternative.
 
Heavy Barrel said:
View attachment 756986

Photo from 2020, better times.

Vet is coming to our home Monday to euthanize our 18 year old cat. She is no longer eating, drinking or using her litter box. She has been on a decline for some time and can no longer hold up her head or walk.

Really hate we are at this point but it is time. Having the vet do it at home to reduce stress. The least we can do for her.


This cat came to our home as a kitten when my son still lived with us. He named her Ninja. When he moved out of our home the cat stayed. She has become part of the family and will be missed. She has ben my alsrm for the recent past. When she is ready to take over my bed (her favorite napping spot)she would jump up on the bed and walk around on me telling me to get up. i will miss that plus when I take my nap in the afternoons she would join me and allow me to pet her. Helped me to fall asleep.

She is a beautiful animal and a loving pet. Wish we could change things but not in the cards. Just hoping for peaceful passing.


I am a mess, I will cry just as I did when we lost our son's dalmation a few years back. Does that make me weak?


Today is my birthday and I spent part of my day preparing g grave for her under our tulip magnolia tree. She wll get a memorial there as well.
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Men who don't cry will one day snap like a twig.


I'm very sorry to hear about Ninja, you are doing the kindest thing that you can do by having the vet make a house call.


Hang in there.
 
Heavy Barrel said:
Ninja update

She was on her favorite cat bed and next to my wife's recliner. my wife was rubbing and monitoriring her and her heart stopped and she quit breathing. SHE passed on her own terms and time. Still sad and she will be missed. Buried her under the magnolia tree.
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I'm sorry I missed this somehow. Hang in there.
 
Personally, i would think less of you if you >didnt< shed a tear. They become like family. Losing them hurts. No doubt.
 
There is no weakness in feeling the pain of loosing a long term family member. RIP.
 
I'm sorry for the loss that you will feel. I wish I could hear the nails of my GSD click on the wood floors but his ashes reside in my work shop waiting for me to give him a proper send off. I found his name tag for his collar in a drawer the other day. When I'm ready I'll scater his ashes and I'll nail his name tag to a tree in the yard. My face had suddenly become very wet and runs onto my shirt.
 
When I read your OP I wondered if it might go that way. Loyal to the end, both of you. You done good, and I grieve with you.
 
Grits said:
I'm sorry for the loss that you will feel. I wish I could hear the nails of my GSD click on the wood floors but his ashes reside in my work shop waiting for me to give him a proper send off
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We've got one of our fur babies in my safe, another two got packed up and we think they're in the garage/barn at my parents house or in a storage unit in Sanford. We'll find them once we finish this renovation and get back in to our home. So far, we've never felt a place that was permanent enough for us to "plant" them. Between our house and the property where my parents house is, I'm sure we'll find a place.
 
Love my cats so I feel your pain man. I got a few on the other side waiting for Ninja to join them for some shenanigans.
 
We have one of our beloved cats in an urn in the bedroom. Murphy was one of a kind. I never thought the hole in my heart could be filled until Cooper came along.

Because of this thread, I spent some extra time goofing off with Cooper this weekend.

Grieve as you wish. Be grateful for the time you spent together. You’re in my thoughts, and I am wishing you comfort and solace.
 
So sorry for your loss. Most of us know exactly what you are feeling right now. It's been 3 weeks since I had to put down my sweet Sandy at 14 1/2 years old. My heart is still broken. She was the best dog I had ever had. My other dog Holly acts as though she doesn't want to live anymore. She is so lost without her buddy. I do my best to grieve when I am not around her, but she goes down to the grave and stands over it and grieves. They were together 13 1/2 years.

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Heavy Barrel said:
Everywhere I look I see something that reminds me she is gone and how much I miss her. I go into the bedroom and I look to see if the "cat is on the bed". She is not and it gets me going again.. So much sadness.
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Also, do not concern yourself with how long it takes for you to not "get going again".

I lost a friend in December of 2021, and all it took to get me going was my starting to type this out.

I'll be a little worried when that stops happening.
 
For all that shared their grief in this thread, there is plenty of comfort to go around.

I imagine all of our fur friends are looking down on us telling their new friends all about us.
 
For the highs in ones life, you have to see there value and scale from the deepest of pits.

Without the downs, the ups are not as sweet.

John
 
Heavy Barrel said:
View attachment 756986

Photo from 2020, better times.

Vet is coming to our home Monday to euthanize our 18 year old cat. She is no longer eating, drinking or using her litter box. She has been on a decline for some time and can no longer hold up her head or walk.

Really hate we are at this point but it is time. Having the vet do it at home to reduce stress. The least we can do for her.


This cat came to our home as a kitten when my son still lived with us. He named her Ninja. When he moved out of our home the cat stayed. She has become part of the family and will be missed. She has ben my alsrm for the recent past. When she is ready to take over my bed (her favorite napping spot)she would jump up on the bed and walk around on me telling me to get up. i will miss that plus when I take my nap in the afternoons she would join me and allow me to pet her. Helped me to fall asleep.

She is a beautiful animal and a loving pet. Wish we could change things but not in the cards. Just hoping for peaceful passing.


I am a mess, I will cry just as I did when we lost our son's dalmation a few years back. Does that make me weak?


Today is my birthday and I spent part of my day preparing g grave for her under our tulip magnolia tree. She wll get a memorial there as well.
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I’m not trying to hijack your post but I lost my pup just over a week ago and I’ve lost animals before but I’m taking this one very badly. I’d only had him about six months and he was young (9mo), but he and I took to eachother right away and bonded.

I am thankful you have 18 years of memories with your friend. I know what you are going through and there’s nothing I can say.
 
Sorry for your loss. I know the pain. Lost my little bud back on November 15th. Haven’t gotten over it yet. Eyes are puddled just typing this. Hang in there.
 
Very sorry sir. As others have said, you’ll see her again. It’s very hard losing a family member and a pet is every bit a member of the family as anyone else in the family.
 
I'm sorry for your loss.

I have 3 graves in my yard I dug for my little furry friends.
 
I've been closer to my dogs than most people I know are with their dogs. I've had to have 7 put down so far in my life - and it never gets easier. For me, time does make it less hurtful.

Sorry for your loss.
 
Dan0311 said:
For me, time does make it less hurtful.
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No, you still feel the loss, though it becomes less painful and you eventually reach a point where you can think of them and you remember the positives more strongly than their loss.

It’s like the one in my avatar, I was at a work conference in VA, and I drove home. I was exhausted, as I can only stand so much socializing. I lay down on the guest bed that he liked to sleep on. I woke up to find him lying behind me and gently reaching out and petting me with his paw. He was showing affection in the same way we showed it to him.

Yes, it hurts, and I’ve shed plenty of tears over my friends who have passed, and threads like this sure seem to put pebbles in my eyes, but the pain subsides and what remains is pleasant.
 
It's not weakness to grieve. Every time it's brought me to my knees. It's a gut punch.

I'm sorry for your loss.
 
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