Our Son's recent health journey.

My prayers for your son, and for you and your family.

"God is our refuge and strength, A very ready help in trouble." ~ Psalm 46:1
 
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He looks better this morning, his color is back. They are taking him to have a drain tube installed. Doc said "you should start feeling much better after..." He replied; "That's what you said the last time...." So his wit is there as well.
 
Wow, I have no words.... Chris had about 75% of his pancreas removed a few weeks ago. So far this surgeon has called it every step of the way. He has been on the money with everything he has told us thus far including this recent bought. I really thought we lost him yesterday but they pulled him through it. His 40th birthday is 08/16. I can't remember if that yet.
Chris WILL pull thru!
 
Some of you know we have been dealing with some health issues with our son. He will be 40 on 08/16 and I am going to try and give the cliff notes version. God Love you if you read all of this....

04/2021: Chris comes to us with chest pain, can't get a breath etc. We rush him to the hospital. He has a blood clot from his ankle to his hip. He also has clots in both lungs putting pressure on his heart. ICU for I don't know how long. The Hematologist figures out he has some rare genetic disorder that makes him prone to blood clots. He did a mesh filter, blood thinners, then eventually removed the filter and life went on. He nearly died according the the Cardiologist. We got him home and he went back to work and life eventually went on. I did post about this at some point.

04/2022: We were at the Dixie show and I get a phone call from Chris saying he has extreme abdominal pain. He had been battling some back pain recently but caulked it up to his job. He went to the Dr. for it as well. I told him we were 45 mins away and if it was that bad, call 911. We get home and find remanence of the EMT's being there. He is at the UNC in Holly Springs NC. My wife goes up and they tell her its gall bladder and they are keeping him overnight. Next morning we go to UNC HS and they tell us he was moved to the REX location.

We drive to REX and find out he is in the Vascular ICU clinging to life. Kidneys shut down, I bet he had 20 IV bags. The pain he was in was excruciating to the point they couldn't relieve it properly. We spoke to the Dr's and Surgeon and they tell us he has acute Pancreatitis. Not everyone recovers from it and they are preparing us for the worst. He was in ICU for probably 2 weeks and made it through. He was put in general population as I like to call it. Things were looking good for recovery. We show back up one morning and he is in ICU again. Bleeding internally.

Keep in mind, he is on blood thinners for the previous issue of blood clots. It's a balancing act....

Back to general population. He was hospitalized for right at 6 weeks and they begrudgingly let him come home. He is at home and healing. We met with the pancreatic surgeon who has been with us the entire time. This dude has called it to the letter from the start. Amazing doctor. He said he really didn't want to let Chris come home but since we were there he agreed. Surgeon says he wants to go in and release the crap the pancreas has purged and the body and isolated in the abdomen and Chris should start feeling better. He would put a stint between the pancreas and the stomach and that would allow the toxins to purge through the stomach. Surgery was a success. Chris was in great pain but on his way to healing. He has been great through all of this mentally and ready to get his life back.

Fast forward a few weeks. He starts complaining of being dizzy and nauseated. He has been on his back since April, it's now end of July/ early August. His blood pressure starts dropping to around 98/80, He has been prescribed by his "pain management Dr" physical therapy. They won't touch him due to his BP. The Surgeon tells him to stop taking any BP meds. After he stops we record BP Systolic from 147 to 98. Sunday afternoon, he is groaning like I haven't heard since he was in ICU. I asked him about his pain and if he wanted to go to the ER. He said yes and we took him in this past Sunday evening. A LONG day, Rex wouldn't let both of us stay with him so I took off and was sitting in the Vascular lobby because it was 98 degrees outside and I couldn't sit in the car without it running. Some lacky comes and tells me I can't sit in the lobby by myself, not bothering anyone and I have to wait outside!!!! My response must have been epic, that dude took off like his life was in danger....

This morning around 6am Chris txt me his new room number. We arrive at the hospital and the receptionist tells us he is not in that room but ICU. Nothing new, we have been down this road before but still surprising. Come to find out, it seems from what I can deduce, the Surgeon came in early this morning and found Chris non responsive with an extremely low BP. They spent the majority of today just trying to get him stabilized. He received two units of blood, a unit if plasma and a Christmas tree of IV"s. It's like we are starting over again from last April. CT scans show no obvious signs of internal bleeding. The Docs tell us he was septic and has an infection. They are going to install a drain tube from his abdomen. Today through all of this he is coherent and talking to us. Good Signs. This morning we didn't know if he was going to make it. We actually still don't know but things are looking better this afternoon.

So that is where we are. I have probably left a lot out and quite frankly we are exhausted and I'm not going to go back and proof read all of that. If you have any questions, I will happily answer any and all questions. Typically acute pancreatitis is caused by binge drinking. While Chris was drinking to deal with some deaths of some folks that were really close to him, all the Doc's have said "that's all you were drinking" and the surgeon said there are a 1000 different reasons you can get pancreatitis, including a scorpion bite from an indigenous specie in Arizona..

I'm not sure what Chris's current beliefs are in God but we are believers outside of the Church. Please give him a prayer for us. He is a good person. His customers at work are still asking about him after 4-5 months of not seeing him. Also put in a good word for my Boss (forum member) for how good he has been with me over these past few months. A true saint. He could use a prayer as well.
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Spooks Prayers sent and if you need someone to talk to pm me and we can message, or I will give you my phone number. while not the same as you I have lost 2 of my children and it is something no Parent should have to experience
Thank you brother.
 
The fact that you are able to update the forum while going through all of this speaks VOLUMES to your strength. Damn straight. I wouldn't be able to communicate if something like this was happening to my child. It would crush me. I know it would.

Prayers of continued strength for you and healing for Chris. All in your circle, are lifted up.
 
The fact that you are able to update the forum while going through all of this speaks VOLUMES to your strength. Damn straight. I wouldn't be able to communicate if something like this was happening to my child. It would crush me. I know it would.

Prayers of continued strength for you and healing for Chris. All in your circle, are lifted up.
It's taken me nearly 4 months to post this....
 
It's taken me nearly 4 months to post this....
Damn strong, still. It takes a strong person to weather storms like this and prayer helps. I see people face things that I know I could not. I don't care what happens to me, but my family and close friends are what I live for. I always pray for them, worry and choke up over their struggles.

Prayers brother. It will get better.
 
We’ll keep Chris, you, and your family in our thoughts and prayers.
 
It's taken me nearly 4 months to post this....
Sometimes it difficult to just find the strength to make it through the day, the strength needed to talk about this is tremendous, I’m sure. Just remember, you are not alone. We are here if you need us.
 
Sometimes it difficult to just find the strength to make it through the day, the strength needed to talk about this is tremendous, I’m sure. Just remember, you are not alone. We are here if you need us.
Thanks Joe. It was tough posting this and I must admit it took a little liquid courage last night. You all don't know how much of a difference you have made in my stress level and mental health. I appreciate every one of you. I have received numerous private messages as well.

I don't express my feelings much if at all with those that know me. I am typically the rock and have been through this situation as well. I have to admit that this has shattered me a time or two. However; no matter the outcome it has absolutely brought my son and I MUCH closer than I think we have been in a very long time. We tell each other "I love you" daily now, he shows appreciation for what I/we do for him, etc. etc. I don't think that has happened since he was a wee lad.

He has had some break downs through all of this and understandably so. He is starting to feel like a burden and has expressed his gratitude for us "putting up with him". My response has always been, "payback is coming, we aren't getting any younger man..."

I love this community. I have met a few of you but we have all been there for each other through thick and thin. I thank you all if nothing else to be there as a sounding board and get some of this off my chest. It does make a big difference. Damnit, now I have something in irritating my eyes....
 
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It's a rough patch at the moment, but just hang in there and do what's best. It will all work out and you will be back to giving each other a hard time soon.
 
Thanks Joe. It was tough posting this and I must admit it took a little liquid courage last night. You all don't know how much of a difference you have made in my stress level and mental health. I appreciate every one of you. I have received numerous private messages as well.

I don't express my feelings much if at all with those that know me. I am typically the rock and have been through this situation as well. I have to admit that this has shattered me a time or two. However; no matter the outcome it has absolutely brought my son and I MUCH closer than I think we have been in a very long time. We tell each other "I love you" daily now, he shows appreciation for what I/we do for him, etc. etc. I don't think that has happened since he was a wee lad.

He has had some break downs through all of this and understandably so. He is starting to feel like a burden and has expressed his gratitude for us "putting up with him". My response has always been, "payback is coming, we aren't getting any younger man..."

I love this community. I have met a few of you but we have all been there for each other through thick and thin. I thank you all if nothing else to be there as a sounding board and get some of this off my chest. It does make a big difference. Damnit, now I have something in irritating my eyes....
That's love and responsibility. Your son is blessed to have you be right there for him during his trials. It's a rare thing these days it seems.

But the Lord has provided YOU with an outlet as well. This weird little online community of misfits.

All the messages from members are genuine. Take them up on it. From those experienced in the same kind of hardship to those like me, just willing to take a cussing.

We are here for support for your son AND for you. If you want my phone number to just call and cuss the hell out of something/someone, let me know. Happy to take it. I bet you have a multitude of offers from professionals to good ol' boys to talk to here. Just to gain knowledge, understanding or relief.

Use those resources. We want you to.
 
He made it back to general population last night with only two IV bags but we have been here more than a few times before already. However; this is headed in the right direction at least.
 
Praying for your son, you and your family.
 
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