Lost my mom today…

Prayers for all, and a few words, FWIW.

Your mom is at peace now; her pain is ended and she's in the hands of our Lord.

Your dad may surprise you. When my dad died, my mom revealed a whole new side of herself and lived the rest of her life doing good works.

Your family has you to tell her story. Do it often so that they will come to know her as you did.

God bless you all!
 
I'm very sorry for your loss. Thoughts for your father to find peace.
 
Positive thoughts and prayers for strength up for you and your family.

I know this has been a long road and you're concerned about your father and rightly so. But please take some time for just you. I know there's prolly a lot going on right now that's keeping you occupied but when/if given the opportunity take just a small step back and take a deep breath.

@Stick Man touched on it, yes, your father needs you, but you may need him more than you realize. You've gone through this thing together and will continue to do so.
Let him be there for you too.

And I'll think you'll do a fine job at her service.
May God bless and strengthen you Amen.
 
Very sorry for your loss. Here's to hoping that your dad is able to fill that void by spending more time with the rest of his family, especially the grandkids, and helping paint a picture of what your mother was really like as a person.
 
Lord God rest the soul of @SurfcasterPE mom, and give his dad and family the strength they need to deal with their grief.
 
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I’m sorry for your loss. I am dealing with something very similar.
My daddy died two weeks ago.
He was 86.
Mom and dad have been together for 64 years.
She’s struggling, so am I and my brothers and sister.
 
So sorry for your loss. Keep Dad busy but also don’t overwhelm him. They have groups for people who have lost spouses. This was a great help to my mother in law but everyone is different in their needs.
 
Prayers for your family. It sounds like Mom is in a better place.

My father passed and Mom had congestive heart failure at the same time. Us kids cared for her another 10ish years. There were a lot of things that we all went through between her diagnosis and passing. She was the patriarch of the family. In some ways I think her passing made us all closer.

Hug and appreciate your loved ones. Life is all too short.
 
I don't have anything to add except for prayers for you, your dad, and your family.
 
Whew. Loss is so tough this side of glory! I pray that the peace of God, that surpasses all understanding, will wash over you and you will feel His presence and hear His voice through this difficult time.
 
Thanks again for all the responses and kind words. It’s been a tough week of trying to plan services and then had to shift some when we saw the forecast track for this tropical storm headed this direction. We had the basic arrangements made from when she had a downturn several months back so it was a matter of the schedule and details.
Funny so many mention a dog. He does have a little lap dog that was a nice support to mom and can now sense that she is gone.
Dad will definitely need some hobbies and something to fill his time. He gets plenty of church time in, but needs other things to do as well. I’ll be excited to see his next phase and think we will find new ways to bond. He’s in good health for his age at 79 and has quite a few good years left for himself.
Thanks again to everyone for all your words of wisdom.
 
Sorry for your loss. Prayers for peace and comfort for you and family during this difficult time.
 
yes, it comes for all of us.

essentially,
we went through something similar.
here is what we learned over the years:

1. take, as in TAKE, your father to the movies, restaurants, wherever...as often as you can, even if he says he does not want to go.
2. show up to "help" him clean up. it is a "white lie" to be with him. while doing the dishes our Dad talked when he would not, otherwise.
3. a routine will help. it takes a while to establish, but it was worth it in our case. example: Thursday is Harris-Teeter Senior Citizen's Day.

what eventually worked for us might not for your situation.
all i can do is offer my experiences and sympathies.
 
Hey @SurfcasterPE , just checking in. I hope you all are finding peace, fellowshipping and encouraging one another!
 
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Hey @SurfcasterPE , just checking in. I hope you all are finding peace, fellowshipping and encouraging one another!
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Hey we’re good here. Thanks for checking in! We had a nice service for mom yesterday. I had a speaking bit and shared some memories and we had a sort of open mic time for others that knew her to share as well. My awesome 19yo daughter said a few words and read some of mom’s favorite scripture. It was nice.
Having dad and some family over for dinner this evening making mom’s semi-famous fried pizza. We shared the recipe on a handout at the service. It was always a birthday favorite.
We’re making plans for Thanksgiving with dad down at the beach. It was mom’s favorite place to be and so many of the old photos of them we shared of them in their younger days were in some of the same spots we still frequent. There were several pics on the Ft Fisher-Southport ferry dated 1965 and later and we still ride that route several times a year now. We’ll catch up with some more of the family and spend at least a day on the old family farm nearby. Dad’s mom was born there and some family still lives there. He hasn’t been able to spend much time there in a long time. An oyster roast will definitely happen at some point at the beach, another tradition.
We’re good. Dad’s good. And he has a whole lot of folks circling around him.
 
Prayers for you and for your dad.
Others have said it right. The best you can do is to help get your dad busy at anything. My brother went through a very similar experience, having quit work to care for his wife who was slowly dying of cancer. He dd all the care himself, and then in April when she passed, he was alone with all his time free.

He was in the dumps for a while until he got involved in some things he hadn't had time for or interest in for a long time -- bowling, fishing, church and catching up with maintenance around the house. He visited us recently and said getting busy was the thing that has saved him so far.

I pray for your dad to find a similar path.
 
I'm sorry for your loss, I know what you're going through as my mom just passed away a couple months ago. I still walk in the door and look around for her, so it is rough, and will be rough for a long time. It is easier when you know they've been released from suffering and are in a better place now, but it's still rough to have them missing in your life.
 
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