I'm stealing this. Best quote I've seen all year
Thanks.
Actions have consequences...and people should learn to deal with those consequences. Either learn from others to avoid them in the first place, or suffer through them personally. Adults have that choice...children, not so much as their learning skills are on a far different level.
People who want to eliminate all sources of pain and danger in our lives have absolutely no clue about human behavior and development. Obviously, we do things to minimize and mitigate unnecessary or truly dangerous things, but we don't need to go overboard.
You want to watch a child learn QUICKLY not to do something dangerous? Watch what he does after he gets hurt and he encounters anything remotely resembling the circumstances that lead up to that pain. This is especially important with young children who have no conceptual understanding of how the world around them works. They're constantly touching, tasting, listening, playing with everything they can reach because that's how they're wired to learn.
When our son was a young toddler, he obviously had no clue what "hot" meant with respect to being dangerous. We checked all his food to make sure it wasn't dangerously hot to handle/eat before he could touch it, we made sure his bath water wasn't too hot, we kept him away from hot pavement when barefoot, we kept him out of the kitchen when cooking with the over, etc.
Well...almost.
One day while my wife was cooking, we were constantly chasing him out of the kitchen away from the oven, where she was baking something. Every time we pulled him away, we told him "HOT!" and set him out to something else to play with. And then, toddlers being what they are, he slipped past our guard ONE TIME just as my wife turned away from the oven where she had pulled something out. And he reached out and touched the wire rack that she had pulled out.
I calmed him down and we played under the cold running water in the kitchen sink for the better part of an hour, having fun until the pain faded away. Luckily just a small blister was all he ended up with.
But from then on, whenever my wife was in the kitchen cooking, he'd point to the oven and say "HOT!" and not come near it. And if we told him something was hot, he KNEW what that meant. Because Mother Nature gave him the ability to learn and understand this.