Really rough 24 hours for my wife and I

We werent planning anything, but things happened. And we were ok, we were all in.
It wasnt long after that things werent going right with her, which led us to the ER on the recommendation of her doc.
More bloodwork tomorrow and we'll get results Thursday.
But all the symptoms point to one thing.

I am very off. I went to work and put on that happy face and did my best to have a distraction. But the emotional rollercoaster has taken it's toll.
From looking at a Wake onesy to telling my parents what happened (it was so new that we hadnt told parents yet)
I dont cry over a lot. I cried yesterday.


Thank yall for the texts and such. This group is wonderful.
 
HMP said:
We werent planning anything, but things happened. And we were ok, we were all in.
It wasnt long after that things werent going right with her, which led us to the ER on the recommendation of her doc.
More bloodwork tomorrow and we'll get results Thursday.
But all the symptoms point to one thing.

I am very off. I went to work and put on that happy face and did my best to have a distraction. But the emotional rollercoaster has taken it's toll.
From looking at a Wake onesy to telling my parents what happened (it was so new that we hadnt told parents yet)
I dont cry over a lot. I cried yesterday.


Thank yall for the texts and such. This group is wonderful.
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Hang in there, you have the whole family praying for you.
 
HMP said:
We werent planning anything, but things happened. And we were ok, we were all in.
It wasnt long after that things werent going right with her, which led us to the ER on the recommendation of her doc.
More bloodwork tomorrow and we'll get results Thursday.
But all the symptoms point to one thing.

I am very off. I went to work and put on that happy face and did my best to have a distraction. But the emotional rollercoaster has taken it's toll.
From looking at a Wake onesy to telling my parents what happened (it was so new that we hadnt told parents yet)
I dont cry over a lot. I cried yesterday.


Thank yall for the texts and such. This group is wonderful.
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The tone and emotion was certainly readable bud. It’s absolutely a roller coaster and tears at your heart like nothing else can. We lost 2 far enough along to require a procedure and our third gave us a good scare but was born perfect in every way. Prayers for the best outcome. Keep positive because preparing for the worst is futile. It’ll scar you despite your resolve.

You say you weren’t trying and neither were we the first time. It’s something neither of us thought we were ready for but after the loss we did start trying. It became an extremely expensive endeavor ( and almost medically hopeless) but in the end we’ve been blessed beyond words with our little girl.

Sorry if I’m oversharing but wanted to drive home that God has a plan and a timeline and 100% knows what he’s doing.

Prayers for his peace to be with you guys during all this.
 
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Praying for all of you as you press forward.

You are not alone here my friend. There are currently 8,910 members on here that are not the kind of people who look the other way when one from within needs support.
 
Prayers for you both. Let us know if we can do anything to help you all.
 
B00ger said:
Still a bit confused as to what is going on, but that doesnt matter. What matters is a brother is going through a rough time. So we are here if you need anything.
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Look at Pogues post
 
while i havent experienced it, this is far more common than you'd expect. ive got many friends who have been through it.

a key thing to understand is that just because this happened doesnt mean you did anything wrong at all. dont blame yourself, and dont let your wife blame herself either. you have to be strong together.
 
Will continue to pray and send positive vibes your way.


And, while different people deal different ways, and many don't or won't,
it's okay to cry.
 
Praying for y’all. My wife had a miscarriage around 8weeks almost 21 years ago that was very difficult for both of us. We now have twins that will be 20 in February and a 16 year old.
 
kcult said:
I have things to say, but everything I type comes across as woe is me, and that's not the case.

So, I just backspace...

I think I'll just drink, instead.
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God bless you too, Troy.
 
I haven’t been around here long and don’t know anything about you other than you have good taste in music. That said, I’m still sending positive thoughts your way.

Be there for your wife and let her be there for you too. May you both find peace.
 
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... But all the symptoms point to one thing.
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I dont cry over a lot. I cried yesterday.
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I figured and hoped i was wrong
Your reaction is to be expected and very very acceptable.
Sorry it happened for you two. And I do mean you two.
 
Prayers for you and your wife. God bless you both.
 
We saw that little heartbeat the first time and my knees got wobbly. Three days later, they looked again and it was gone. The grief was terrible, more so for my wife.

There wasn't another one for a couple of years, but he made it. Raising him with my wife was the greatest pleasure of my life. He turns 25 today.
 
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Tough feeling as we had two prior to our first born. One very late and it was traumatic for my wife. Being not the person carrying it I was sad but nothing like how my wife felt. We never talked about either. My wife is very closed with her feelings. She keeps it bottled up, never cries, never let’s people inside.

The best to you and the wife. Great joy awaits down the road.
 
Having your wife apologize is crushing. Just reassuring that she did nothing wrong.
She's ok right now except there's still 'complications' and we dont know what's happening next.
Today she'll pop in for bloodwork, but she scared that its going to require surgery, eggtopic or something? Things just arent right down there right now and she's super scared, Im doing my best to be there for her. Even surprising her with some banana pudding with dinner last night. Im trying to be what I want and need to be for her.

@kcult brother, get it out, woe is me is fine, we're all here
 
HMP said:
Having your wife apologize is crushing. Just reassuring that she did nothing wrong.
She's ok right now except there's still 'complications' and we dont know what's happening next.
Today she'll pop in for bloodwork, but she scared that its going to require surgery, eggtopic or something? Things just arent right down there right now and she's super scared, Im doing my best to be there for her. Even surprising her with some banana pudding with dinner last night. Im trying to be what I want and need to be for her.

@kcult brother, get it out, woe is me is fine, we're all here
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You are doing great. Just keep being there for her and reassuring her. You don’t have to have any answers. You just have to be there.

My wife and I have gone through this. More here have than anyone probably realizes. We are here for you however you need us.

Continued prayers for both of you.
 
HMP said:
Having your wife apologize is crushing. Just reassuring that she did nothing wrong.
She's ok right now except there's still 'complications' and we dont know what's happening next.
Today she'll pop in for bloodwork, but she scared that its going to require surgery, eggtopic or something? Things just arent right down there right now and she's super scared, Im doing my best to be there for her. Even surprising her with some banana pudding with dinner last night. Im trying to be what I want and need to be for her.

@kcult brother, get it out, woe is me is fine, we're all here
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Whew! going from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows can really test us, our resolve. Your comment on the "apology" and that feeling of "what did I do wrong" (guilt) broke my heart!
It is something I have heard before. Know that in addition to human emotion and the pain of loss there are also a barrage of hormonal changes that your wife is and will experience. You being there for her: loving, supporting, encouraging, and reassuring her is key and vital to both of you getting through this difficult time of loss. So, Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight (lead you, guide you, and direct you)! You don't have to "figure it out"...you just have to have faith, hope, trust, and confidence that the pain will diminish and you can experience restoration! 🙏
 
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