Why are there so many weak men

[railsplitter]

It's just that the abuse by women is not as often the straight forward, physical abuse which is more prevalent from men. Rather, it's a long term, manipulative, undermining, pattern of degradation which is typically geared towards transforming the actual and apparent behavior of the man into something "bad" which then makes the woman out to be the victim to others.

^^Perfect description of what I went through with my now ex-wife. Manipulative, lying, and always a victim. There was never a time in our 17 years together where she wasn't claiming to be a victim of someone else supposedly mistreating or disrespecting her.

It wasn't till after I left her that I started to really understand the extent of her evil and manipulation. Live and learn, but it was a very expensive lesson!

 

[Snal~]

The beauty of divorcing someone like my demon spawn ex-wife (and you with your ex) is that you CAN, in fact, move on with your life. If you have no children, it's much easier. If you DO have children, you can weather the storm at least knowing that there's a hard date in which child support will end and then no further involvement with the ex will be required at all.

It's also awesome if you realize that you are, in fact, effed up in the head over it all and need to work on yourself and get yourself squared away before you get involved with someone else...because that sets you on the path to true recovery. Meanwhile, odds are that she will never work to make herself a better person and the one that she latches onto will eventually pay the price for it...poetic justice, especially if he was "the other man", and MOST especially if he was a former friend at the time he was "the other man". Because eff him...he made his bed, he can suffer for it while you sit back and enjoy his future spiral into misery and despair.


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I was fortunate that she married a really good guy. I couldn't have hand picked a better step-dad for my children.
He also toned her down a bit with regards to how she treated me, I suppose because he was treated the same by his ex.
He and I only had one confrontation over the years, because I called her a super bitch in front of him, can't blame him for that.
Kinda felt sorry for him after they split, because he had to pay alimony. I told him that if I was him I wouldn't pay her a cent!

 

[RetiredUSNChief]

I was fortunate that she married a really good guy. I couldn't have hand picked a better step-dad for my children.
He also toned her down a bit with regards to how she treated me, I suppose because he was treated the same by his ex.
He and I only had one confrontation over the years, because I called her a super bitch in front of him, can't blame him for that.
Kinda felt sorry for him after they split, because he had to pay alimony. I told him that if I was him I wouldn't pay her a cent!

I wouldn't wish what I went through with my ex on my worst enemy, it was that bad.

However, I didn't pay alimony, only child support. And if I posted the full story behind how much I ended up NOT having to pay in child support, and how claiming most of the children as dependents for taxes mitigated that significantly, there would be some jaws dropping here.

 

[Walkabout Dan]

Why ? Because it is allowed.