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J R Green

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OK, has anyone had any experience with these. Never been on one but thought I'd try one and immediately got a bunch of likes and messages. Several Wanna'
Fuck?
memes from women 500 miles away. They also want my phone number. What is going on with that?

@Millie Can you explain what I'll be in for?

PM's are fine if you don't want to out yourselves.
 
I have a recently separated/divorced friend. When they first split he did a few dating sights. The stories were something. It’s a much different world than it used to be. My buddy got off those sights fairly quickly. Wasn‘t his style.
 
J R Green said:
OK, has anyone had any experience with these. Never been on one but thought I'd try one and immediately got a bunch of likes and messages. Several Wanna'
Fuck?
memes from women 500 miles away. They also want my phone number. What is going on with that?

@Millie Can you explain what I'll be in for?

PM's are fine if you don't want to out yourselves.
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I imagine your experience will be very different from mine. But maybe not.

I think the ones from far away are probably scammers. They want money, or information to be used to get money, I'm guessing.

I was on several sites for nearly 3 years and met 77 men. Some were perfectly nice, some were users. And other not so nice words.
I'm just glad I deleted all of the sites and went on my way. It was an interesting experiment.

I wish you all the luck in the world.
PS People are crazy, so watch yourself!
 
J R Green said:
OK, has anyone had any experience with these. Never been on one but thought I'd try one and immediately got a bunch of likes and messages. Several Wanna'
Fuck?
memes from women 500 miles away. They also want my phone number. What is going on with that?

@Millie Can you explain what I'll be in for?

PM's are fine if you don't want to out yourselves.
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Lies, Spam, Catfishing. Don't send money.
 
Stout said:
Lies, Spam, Catfishing. Don't send money.
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Or... just hear me out... OR... go ahead and send money. do all the weird stuff they ask.
and keep track of it all in a basement thread we can read.
I'll pitch in $5
 
I am on several and I get some good dates and some stuck up female dogs. Stay away from South central Americans, they only want guys with money and they want to be "persued". Brazillian girls ok. If you get any responses you are doing well. Of the hundreds of women on these I swipe left 97 percent of the time. I will usually on have a handful of women talking to me at any one time. If they say no hook ups that only means if they aren't attracted to you. Very few of my dates go past the second without something going on. I'm not using them just spending quality time. There is a phenomena of dissapearances that will happen and hell Indomit to women. They just sorta stop texting. No reason given. Or they just liked you but never respond. You will never get a like first from a woman unless you are a hot Chad, at least from a woman you are attracted to. But anyway, here is a good video about the odds you face.

 
Met my wife on a dating app. 2.5 years later and with rings on our fingers, it worked out.
Before that - bedded down dozens of girls from the apps.

Yes, there are 'bots' that quickly seem fake, not natural in their language/approach.
But there's lots of real ones out there too. Dont give up, dont stop.
 
I did dating websites for several years. Like Forrest Gump said, "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you gonna get".

Then I bought a motorcycle and haven't looked back! I met more (legit) women during my bike rides than I ever met on a website; better ones too without all of the crazy issues.

So my advice is, "buy and ride a motorcycle"! Everything else will fall into place.
 
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Coworker met his wife from China on yahoo, she got her third PhD at NCSU, they have two kids. My youngest met her BF online, he is a great guy. Wedding in 10/2024.
 
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Good thoughts on dating...

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Railsplitter said:
I did dating websites for several years. Like Forrest Gump said, "Life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you gonna get".

Then I bought a motorcycle and haven't looked back! I met more (legit) women during my bike rides than I ever met on a website; better ones too without all of the crazy issues.

So my advice is, "buy and ride a motorcycle"! Everything else will fall into place.
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Yeah. That part there is what I'd be trying to avoid on a motorcycle.

"Dating" as well.
 
Met my wife 13 years ago on a dating site by chance. I was working out in BFE where there weren't exactly places to socialize other than the local bar, and that's not the sort of place you went looking for wife/girlfriend material. Only thing you'd have found there was the clap. That was also when dating sites were still relatively new, though, and not full of bots and catfishers.
 
Only use the pay dating sites. The free ones are a waste of time. I've had good luck on match.com
Like attracts like. Don't be scared to show some vulnerability.
Understand what boundaries are.
Stay away from subjects that are likely to drive a wedge between you and another person. Politics religion etc. Current tasteful photographs certainly help.

Eta avoid pictures with dead animals in them. Also remember that one's hobbies should not define them. That's a big red flag.
 
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Millie said:
They may try to get you to send them pics, so they can use them for nefarious purposes.
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Like Peter pictures? Don't think they could gain much from mine.
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I think I would just live in the woods by myself before I went through all this chit to find a woman.
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Have we met? That is my life and yet I haven't run across any Bigfoots women in all my foraging.
 
I met my wife on Match 23 years ago. This year we celebrated our 20th anniversary.

Good advice from others above. Stay away from the free sites - lots of crazies on them. Match and e-harmony are both quality sites.
 
Met my wife through the dating classifieds (no internet for me 30 years ago).
Actually, my then female roommate placed an ad for me (I would have never done so) that made me out to be God's gift to women. It got TONS of
replies!
After that I placed a truthful ad, and still got plenty of replies.
Found out pretty quick that those gals that didn't have kids just didn't think like me, although they were fun!
Went on 27 different dates and only 2 went beyond the first date (my choice).
Wife replied on a dare (she was also one that would have never replied otherwise).
We talked on the phone for a few weeks as she was an hour away. Met her for dinner. Talked on the phone for a few more weeks and then she took me to dinner.
Took things sloooow for a long time but ended up getting engaged. After about a year she moved in, up from SC to NC.
We both had two kids. Each of us with an eight year old and a 4 year old, opposite sexes.
Still hanging in there! Married 27 years.
 
Had my first encounter today. Chick from New Jersy visiting, right?

Shot me some naked pics and wanted me to sign up on this Identity verification site, yknow, for safety. A site that required a credit card number. OK I'm new but I'm not still wet.

Decided to have some fun. Some of ya'll know I used to track fugitives for a living. Did a search on one of the pics and found a twitter page for a THOT for someone with a different name. The phone number went to a transvestite shop in NY.

We might have to take this to Tortuga before long.
 
Between marriages, I had a long time friend that owned a beauty shop. Back then, she cut my hair. She was always trying to fix me up with one of her customers. With her there was an endless supply of women. Most of them were nuttier than squirrel droppings. I did go out with a couple of them but, they were looking for a husband and I wasn't quite ready to be a husband again. If you have a friend that's a beautician or if you know a beautician, ask them if they know any ladies looking for a friend.
 
The problem I had early on when casually "dating" girls off those sites, is that half my messages were from the girls I "dated", and then the other half were death threats from their husbands or boyfriends they forgot to mention they had, or assured me they were "separated", etc.
 
I had very good results from Match, 20 years ago. I met one girl that I dated for a year before I pursued (and married 15 yrs later) a woman I knew from high school.

Most of the better stories I can't repeat here - several crazy ones, of course, but I remember going on 8 dates in 11 days. The 8th one was one I stuck with for at least 8 or 9 months.

One woman had pictures on the site of her in a bikini on all fours in the sand at the beach. Another pic was of her in a US Army uniform as a K9 handler - right up my alley! I was excited to meet her. When I did.....she looked nothing like the pictures at all. Those pictures were of her a very loooong time before.

One I met in a bar on a weekday. She was a few years older, from Ireland - and drank like a Sailor. For every drink I had, she finished two and was waiting on me. We walked to the beach and fooled around - she didn't care about passersby at all. It got....far. We parted saying that we'd see each other again the next night, but I wasn't into it so soon. I called her in the afternoon to push back the next date, and what came out of her mouth was incredible. I never heard a woman string so many curse words in a sentence and still make sense! Her thick Irish brogue made it comical and I was laughing, saying, "Hey, I want to see you again, just not tonight", but she kept on going and going - then hung-up on me.

If you're looking for love, you'll probably have to invest in some crazy dates.

My father met his wife on a seniors dating site. They got married a year later - he was 80 years old, she, a few years younger.
 
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Better be ready for some nut cases. I had a coworker who used sites all the time. He was a body builder with zero common sense. One girl he flew to Ohio and slept with. Brought her to Hickory to his apartment and bought a new truck for her to drive. Her 14 year old daughter came withe the package then she ran off with a carnival man at the local county fair. That cost him a bunch to find her.

Then one day after 2 months he comes home and finds a butt naked girlfriend and a young black naked man on the sofa. She turned her pit bull on him and the guy tried to hit him with a lamp. He beat the heck out of the dude which ran out of the house naked holding a rug to cover hiself. She called the cops and pressed domestic charges on him. He was found guilty which he also had to never come back to the apartment which she lived in for 6 months rent free, he had to pay. He also was not allowed to recover the truck for months. He had to go to domestic abuse classes which he had to pay for and had one year probation. Don’t forget he had 2 days in jail as a cooling off period. Forgot to mention the dog bit him in the chest severely which left a cantaloupe size bruise and teeth marks. He continued with dating sites.

Another coworker met a Russian and finally had her brought to the states. After a few months she wiped out his checking and savings accounts. He never located her, maybe didn’t really try. One year later he does it again. Russian, she ask him for money for her family but instead takes the money, ghosting him. I think the guy was a virgin at 30 plus years old and nooky got the best of him.
 
I met my wife on a free dating site. It can be done. Like others have said there are lots of crazies out there. If you don't take it too seriously and chat with lots of women, eventually you will find one that's decent.
Most everyone that's online dating has something that is keeping them from just picking up someone local to them so the key is to not rush it and find out what their "thing" is. If you can live with that, your golden.
If you can't, at least you have lots of crazy hookups and aren't spending your Saturdays alone. Like fishing, if you keep casting eventually you'll catch something.
Life is short. enjoy yourself!
 
HMP said:
Met my wife on a dating app. 2.5 years later and with rings on our fingers, it worked out.
Before that - bedded down dozens of girls from the apps.

Yes, there are 'bots' that quickly seem fake, not natural in their language/approach.
But there's lots of real ones out there too. Dont give up, dont stop.
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this.

the wife and i met on tinder, married a year later, and still together.

went on a couple dates here and there, lots of good convos, and meet ups. lots of bs and wasted time.

but in the end, i met a good woman that drove 2 hours to meet me. we enjoy a lot of the same things and she’s way smarter than me.
 
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