As usual, I'm seeing a thread way later than everyone else. I'm praying for y'all!
I'll also add my story in the hopes that it encourages you.
My wife and I were about 25yo and newly married. I was still on active duty and deploying a lot... We weren't trying, but we weren't trying to prevent anything either.
She got pregnant. As soon as she saw the positive test, she told everybody. She was so happy. That was a mistake... It just wasn't the right time for us, but she took it hard...
About 6 months later, she got pregnant again. This time she learned from the first one. She waited three months before she told anyone. Then she told everyone... I don't remember how long it took, a couple more months, but we lost that one too. By that time, she was far enough along that she had to have surgery to get it out, or it would have killed her too.
This second time was much worse on us. We had had ultrasounds, pictures of the baby, etc. She had started buying baby clothes... She became depressed, and she decided she didn't want to go through that again, so she started taking birth control. It still wasn't the right time for us...
About two years went by and she decided she was ready to try again. We were much more stable at this point. I had left the military, I was close to finishing my bachelor's degree, she had a good job, we had just bought our first home, etc... We were blessed with a perfectly healthy baby. It was finally the right time for us.
Two years later, we were blessed with another perfectly healthy baby.
I hope we are done. Two is more than enough for me, and now my wife is telling me it's time to get snipped, just in case.
The moral of my story is. Nobody knows when it's the right time for them. But, don't let that stop you from trying again. Eventually, it'll be the right time for you too.
May God bless you both, when the time is right!