Glad to see you out plastic under it.
Mechanic’s cliche, “Leaks like a Harley”
After 20 years, wife wants separation...
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Mechanic’s cliche, “Leaks like a Harley”
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They figured out that problem 35-40 years ago, especially with the Evo that came out in 84 and belt drive. Plastic was just not to ruin the carpet in the new house with the schmutz that came in on the tires.
I had an old friend that had 5 Harleys in pieces in his living room. Talk about oil stained hardwood floors! Dirty Dave got messed up one time & decided to cut 3" out of the center of a VW Micro bus. It took me & him a couple weeks to weld that short dam thing back together straight. I saw that thing in many parades.
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I got the same thing after 19 years. Sucks but at the end of it you are definitely better off. Don't be afraid to talk about it, buddies, head shrinker, whoever. Sounds like your lawyer has you on the right track.
Just read, sorry to hear. I can't imagine how disappointing it feels, but you can only control what you can control.
Loyalty is a lost virtue in our society; don't let her lack of it affect how you feel.
Wishing you the best in life going forward and I will keep my other comments (about her) to myself.
Loyalty is a lost virtue in our society; don't let her lack of it affect how you feel.
Wishing you the best in life going forward and I will keep my other comments (about her) to myself.
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Ding, ding, ding....we have a winner. Nobody just turns off like that...it's a process.
Sorry to hear man but honestly, sometimes, I think it would be a blessing. A wise man once told me a wife is a gift from God....problem is....we choose them most of the time, not the ones that are sent to us.
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Horse pucky.
Take this coming from someone who went through a nightmare separation/divorce that lasted about 4 years and involved civilian and military judicial systems.
I learned a lot of painful lessons from that. One of them is that it only takes ONE person to make a marriage fail, and nothing the other person does can change that.
It's never ceased to amaze me how two people who supposedly loved each other and were adult enough to commit to a marriage could afterwards NOT figure out how to act like adults when the end of a marriage approaches. Why some people simply MUST turn it into a bitter battlefield, with the object to tear down the other person, destroy their lives, and shred the lives of any children involved in the process.
Thus my hat's off to the few people who actually CAN do this like adults.
Yours looks like it might be one of those act-like-adults cases. If so, then you ought to be adult enough to work out the details reasonably and then part on those terms.
Doesn't mean it won't be painful. Or expensive. Or costly in any number of ways.
But when the end is coming like this, it'll be far less painful for both of you in the end.
My advice is to work with your attorney, make it clear that you are trying to work this out as reasonable adults between you and her and your respective attorneys. It's his/her job to protect you legally during that.
If the two of you have anything worked out in the meantime while you're progressing towards the final divorce, see if the two of you can get it in writing through the court. As an example of this, when I was first going through my separation/divorce from She-Who-Shall-Not-Be-Named, I was paying voluntary child support which amounted to my married BAQ at the time. Since we both agreed on this, I got with my attorney and had it put into writing and made it an official court document. That settled the issue of child support long before the divorce, and in my instance worked out vastly in my favor in the long run. (How many people do you know who paid $418.50 a month for 4 children, [later 3], and also got to claim two on taxes?)