Do you have an activity (other than sex or sex-related activities) that brings you what I describe as a heavenly peace? In other words, the world around you could be total chaos, burning down in a blaze of fire but if you were doing this activity you either wouldn’t notice it or wouldn’t care. I am fortunate to have two; The first one is dancing. I know this is a very female answer but when I dance the rest of the world stands still. Nothing matters but me and the beat of the song I am dancing to. Every beat allows me to feel something, whether it be joy or what I can only describe as grit. If the right song comes on (and it only happens with certain songs) I can’t keep my body from moving, even if I wanted to. Those are the best songs. This is why sometimes I will dance on an empty dance floor...it’s because I have to and I really don’t care what anyone else thinks about it because my feet are gonna start moving regardless. It is rare for me not to smile while dancing because of the joy it brings me. My second one is being with my family. I really don’t care what we are doing: eating lunch, playing a game, or watching television I enjoy the laughs we share. And of course, I enjoy my time with my hubby after my son goes to bed. This time to connect with my spouse is so important. It’s what keeps the flame alive. It’s what reconnects us each night after a busy day. It is what reminds me that all the other stressors in life are insignificant. As @Chdamn always says “Don’t sweat the small stuff...and it’s all small stuff.” This becomes clear when I am with my family.